Another simplistic linguistic literalist. You are fairly ignorant of Scripture. St. Paul's instruction to Timothy was not absolute in that only married men be selected. After all, you conveniently omitted, St. Paul himself was celibate and wrote in Scripture, which you also omitted, that celibacy was the preferred state.
Paul was an apostle, not a local church leader. There is a difference. Celebacy is never mentioned as the preferred state for a local church leader. 1 Tim 3, in requiring the elder to be a husband is absolute, and it is repeated in Titus. In Timothy, Paul later says, "These things teach and command."
As Jesus said to the Pharisees, "By your traditions, you have nullified the commands of God.