It may be "unkind" but it's also true! This is not a "cafeteria religion" or a bowling club! [Didn't you notice?] If it's "fellowship" you want, there are millions of organizations to pick from where you can do whatever you please, and say that what you are doing is right. But if you happen to be a Jewish Boy and want to be bar mitzvahed, don't be surprised if the rabbi wants you to be circumcised first. And if you want to receive communion in a catholic church, or get married in one, don't be surprised if you are asked to follow the rules!