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Why Christians Must Vehemently (but Lovingly) Oppose Same-Sex Marriage
Out in Right Field ^ | 09 April 2004 | MegaSilver

Posted on 04/09/2004 5:39:41 PM PDT by MegaSilver

When talking with my Christian friends (a real blessing at a college like University of Miami), the conversations sometimes (naturally) become focused on political issues. Genereally, they agree with me on most things political, but of course there are exceptions to every rule. Even the most theologically and morally conservative Christian can occasionally have a liberal view here and there.

I've noticed this seems to be the case among young Evangelicals. This group seems to be one of the more outreach-oriented subsets of Christianity (which is a good thing; youths are, after all, our future), and as such they tend to have more contact with non-Christians. In the interest of openness and wanting people to come to Christ, they sometimes seem to think that perhaps we should avoid alienating potential converts by allowing them to practice their current lifestyle. This, I suspect, is what leads the occasional young, commited Christian to favor decriminalizing marijuana or legalizing same-sex marriages. Besides, nothing should be illegal unless it hurts another, right?

I actually held that view on same-sex marriage throughout high school. In the interest of appearing more loving and acceptable to gays and lesbians, I thought, perhaps we ought not to oppose "equal rights" for homosexuals. Then they might see that we love them and might be more inclined to give up their old lifestyle for Christ.

It's a well-intentioned idea, but I now see that there are two main problems with it.

First, we will always be seen as narrow-minded and intolerant, no matter how much we try to paint ourselves otherwise. The message of the Gospel and the moral codes of the Bible are inherently offensive to humans. If you don't believe this, I would encourage you to remember a time when you read a passage in Scripture or heard a homily and got angry, or thought, "Oh, well, that doesn't apply to me."

C.S. Lewis wrote that pride is the greatest sin. He was right; for nearly everyone, pride is the ultimate barrier that must be broken in order for one to pursue a life centered in Christ or to grow spiritually and morally. As we witness to people, the issue of pride is going to come up sooner or later; there will always be plenty of people who think Christianity is "bigoted" or "conceited" or "doesn't apply to them."

Second, if we love homosexuals and want God to free them from their prison, we cannot in any way accomodate, uplift, or bless their relationships. And this is precisely what marriage licenses do. Decriminalizing sodomy is one thing, but uplifting it and giving it a special standard in the community is quite another. The latter is something we simply must never do.

Christians should love people, care for them, and accomodate them. This means helping them identify their problems, praying for them, and helping them work through their issues. Giving community sanction to same-sex relationships will only get homosexuals deeper into what is inherently a very serious problem. Not only is it against Scripture; there is strong evidence that homosexuality is socially disruptive (the link between child molestation and homosexual behavior) and self-destructive (the high suicide rates among homosexuals, the high rate of STIs in homosexual males).

Homosexuals are in desperate need of help. The Christian response should be to help them to admit that they need help so that they will seek it out, and one way we can help do this is by changing public perceptions about homosexuality (i.e., from a simple "alternate lifestyle" to a dangerous but treatable condition). We cannot do it by uplifting their relationships.


TOPICS: Catholic; Charismatic Christian; Current Events; Evangelical Christian; Mainline Protestant; Moral Issues; Orthodox Christian; Other Christian; Religion & Culture; Religion & Politics
KEYWORDS: homosexuallobby; homosexualmarriage; homosexuals
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1 posted on 04/09/2004 5:39:42 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: MegaSilver
Is pedophilia treatable? Most will tell you, no. How does it differ from homosexuality????
2 posted on 04/09/2004 5:42:57 PM PDT by gcruse (http://gcruse.typepad.com/)
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To: gcruse; Lucky Dog
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Is pedophilia treatable? Most will tell you, no. How does it differ from homosexuality????

Because homosexuality IS treatable. Re-orientation therapy is said to have remarkable success.

3 posted on 04/09/2004 5:53:06 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: MegaSilver
Who cares if it's treatable? (Beside them.)
4 posted on 04/09/2004 6:16:57 PM PDT by A.J.Armitage (http://calvinist-libertarians.blogspot.com/)
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To: MegaSilver
I do not believe reorientation has been successful.

Pedophilia is said to be nontreatable, indicating there is something permanent and uncontrolable going on in terms of what arouses someone sexually.

Homosexuality has many of the same earmarks. Why should we expect to treat someone out of their sexual preferences, short of Clockwork Oranging them?
5 posted on 04/09/2004 6:17:20 PM PDT by gcruse (http://gcruse.typepad.com/)
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To: gcruse
While some pedophiles are homosexuals, not all homosexuals molest children.

Please, don't make such an ignorant assumption.
6 posted on 04/09/2004 6:24:01 PM PDT by EvaClement
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To: A.J.Armitage
Do you care if alcoholism is treatable? Drug addiction? Obesity?

In the same way, some folks who are compassionate -- not "compassionate" like lukewarm nambypamby liberals -- compassionate while still believing in absolute truth, od CARE that those homosexuals looking for a way out are able to find the help they are looking for.

If you have a heart of stone and care not for homosexuals, then you are exactly what "GAY" people accuse conservatives of being, you are a homophobic bigot.

7 posted on 04/09/2004 6:30:02 PM PDT by EvaClement
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To: gcruse
I do not believe reorientation has been successful.

There is a plethora of information about the subject. Search for "reorientation therapy" on Google, take the stuff you find seriously, and then let me know if you still think so.

Pedophilia is said to be nontreatable, indicating there is something permanent and uncontrolable going on in terms of what arouses someone sexually.

Homosexuality has many of the same earmarks.

If that's true, that homosexuality is permanent and uncontrolable, then given how unbashedly disruptive and destructive the behavior is, we really ought to classify it as a mental disorder.

Why should we expect to treat someone out of their sexual preferences, short of Clockwork Oranging them?

See above.

8 posted on 04/09/2004 6:35:54 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: EvaClement
While some pedophiles are homosexuals, not all homosexuals molest children.

Very true.

But take a look at this article. Here's an excerpt:

If 2% of the population is responsible for 20% to 40% of something as socially and personally troubling as child molestation, something must be desperately wrong with that 2%. Not every homosexual is a child molester. But enough gays do molest children so that the risk of a homosexual molesting a child is 10 to 20 times greater than that of a heterosexual.

9 posted on 04/09/2004 6:37:51 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: EvaClement
Please, don't make such an ignorant assumption.

The question obviously springs from ignorance, or I wouldn't be asking it.

Pedophilia (sexual preference) is untreatable.  Why, then, is homosexuality (sexual preference) seen as treatable?
10 posted on 04/09/2004 6:42:21 PM PDT by gcruse (http://gcruse.typepad.com/)
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To: MegaSilver
If that's true, that homosexuality is permanent and uncontrolable, then given how unbashedly disruptive and destructive the behavior is, we really ought to classify it as a mental disorder.

Forgive me, but I don't see two lesbians living together and loving each other as disruptive and destructive.
There is something to be said for letting people live their own lives.
11 posted on 04/09/2004 6:47:05 PM PDT by gcruse (http://gcruse.typepad.com/)
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To: MegaSilver
MegaSilver,

I agree, any communication we have regarding homosexuality, same-sex marriage, etc., MUST be done LOVINGLY. Thanks for this thread.

E.C.
12 posted on 04/09/2004 6:57:07 PM PDT by EvaClement
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To: EvaClement
I agree, any communication we have regarding homosexuality, same-sex marriage, etc., MUST be done LOVINGLY. Thanks for this thread.

Not a problem. God bless. :)

13 posted on 04/09/2004 6:58:08 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: gcruse
1. Please give your sources concerning the untreatable nature of pedophilia.

2. There are a number of successful ministries which help those wanting to leave the homosexual lifestyle - for example
http://www.exodus-international.org/
14 posted on 04/09/2004 7:05:26 PM PDT by EvaClement
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To: EvaClement

SUPREME COURT OF THE UNITED STATES

Notwithstanding its civil attributes, the practical effect of the Kansas law may be to impose confinement for life.  At this stage of medical knowledge, although future treatments cannot be predicted, psychiatrists or other professionals engaged in treating pedophilia may be reluctant to find measurable success in treatment even after a long period and may be unable to predict that no serious danger will come from release of the detainee.
15 posted on 04/09/2004 7:15:57 PM PDT by gcruse (http://gcruse.typepad.com/)
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To: MegaSilver
I think there is a very important division that needs to be made when Christians talk about ministering to homosexuals. I believe there is a difference between someone saying, "I'm gay," and someone who is engaging in homosexual sex. I don't really care whether or not someone says they are gay. It is the act itself that is sinful in God's sight.

The Church has a lot to learn about how to minister to these folks, in my opinion.

16 posted on 04/09/2004 9:16:52 PM PDT by sojourner
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To: sojourner
I think there is a very important division that needs to be made when Christians talk about ministering to homosexuals. I believe there is a difference between someone saying, "I'm gay," and someone who is engaging in homosexual sex. I don't really care whether or not someone says they are gay. It is the act itself that is sinful in God's sight.

There is a world of difference between being "gay" and being "homosexual." Having a homosexual orientation does not necessarily imply that one lives a gay lifestyle, but most people who live the gay lifestyle are having homosexual sex.

Homosexuals can be helped, but they must first shed their lifestyle.

17 posted on 04/09/2004 9:33:21 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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To: EvaClement
If homosexuality is untreatable by psychology, is it not still the case that "with God all things are possible"?
18 posted on 04/09/2004 9:41:13 PM PDT by A.J.Armitage (http://calvinist-libertarians.blogspot.com/)
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To: MegaSilver
Homosexuals can be helped, but they must first shed their lifestyle.

I agree with what you say, though I'm a bit undecided about this part. Yes, I think someone who was sincerely pursuing Chrisitanity would even want to stop participating in the gay lifestyle. However, I can envision a situation where disentangling oneself might be more of a journey, a process.

And even if they were to escape the lifestyle, they might still struggle with sinful homosexual desires for the rest of their lives, even if they are Christian. I think that in order for the Church to minister effectively, it needs to recognize this reality. For some, homosexual desires, whether they are mental illness or not, are a cross to bear.

What do you think?

19 posted on 04/09/2004 9:41:46 PM PDT by sojourner
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To: sojourner
What do you think?

Possibly. But remember, God will give us the will to overcome temptation. And given the successes of reorientation therapy, I believe God can provide a way for most homosexuals to realign themselves if they are willing. Christ acknowledged that "some are eunuchs because they were born that way," but he glorified and uplifted marriage as a holy union that God wills upon those who are able: "The one who can accept this, should" (St. Matthew 19:4-12).

Once again, though, you're right. For some, homosexual desires may be their Cross to bear. But we must not make the mistake--as some Churches have--of calling such people "gays" in the Church, for to say so is to imply that one can live the "gay" lifestyle (sometimes in everything but the sex!) and still be a theologically sound Christian.

And, of course, I need to stop using the word "gay." We need to take back that word, as well as the rainbow.

20 posted on 04/09/2004 9:58:52 PM PDT by MegaSilver
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