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Two letters from Bai Macfarlane's sister are posted here:

http://fonticulusfides.blogspot.com/

Scroll down to March 23. It also explains the name issue - she has never used her first name, and used it in this instance to try to preserve her family's privacy.

Steve and I are both shocked and sorry to read about this. When we first met, and he learned that I was signing up for RCIA that fall, he lent me Pierced by a Sword. I've read both the other books too, and have many of the Catholicity tapes. I've been signed up for the Catholicity e-mail message for years, and looked at some old ones last night - as of MAY, his son was making First Communion, and he wrote very movingly of telling him to offer it for his future wife. How could he have abandoned his own wife only three months later? I think he must need either an exorcist or a neurosurgeon (or Jimbo's Right Hook, for those who've read PBAS). All we can do is offer our prayers for the family.

Importantly there is a letter from his wife Bai about the situation in the link above. Worth reading, so I am cutting and pasting below to save you the bother of searching the blog for it.

IMHO If he hasn't even told he wife why he is leaving her then the chances are he has probably got some kind of mental health issue or hormone induced mid-life crisis. He's 42 so the right age. His behaviour otherwise doesn't make ANY sense, whatsoever. That could well mean that, in time, when he seeks help and recovers he'll return to her cap in hand. I'd say your prayers here are likely to be answered so KEEP praying. I said an extra 5 decades this morning for them.

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Dear friends of the Mary Foundation

I do not know the true reason for Bud's recent behavior. Of course I want an intact family for my children and myself and I pray and that Bud will eventually be inspired to discover the reasons he was unhappily married and work to solve our problems.

I also pray that his mysterious behavior will cause the minimum damage to those I love. As co-founder of the Mary Foundation, I always have loved the Mary Foundation because I love what it does. It disseminates high quality evangelical information to countless souls through the work of evangelizers who want to spread the good news, through audio recordings, cd's, books, and the internet. Besides asking for prayers for our marital situation, I ask that evangelizers continue using good Mary Foundation information as they had in the past.

Some people have suggested that the Mary Foundation shouldn't survive because of Bud's behavior.

But I wonder, who REALLY runs the Mary Foundation. Bud and I used to say it is MARY'S foundation; we are just instruments. If it is the devil's plan to destroy the good work of the Mary Foundation by somehow inspiring Bud to act so "contradictorily", then let the devil be tested. If God allows the Mary Foundation to 'go down' under these circumstances, He can raise up other works, but I hope all of your prayers will melt Bud's heart, and the Mary Foundation can continue to do good work.

Holding on to Hope, while fighting fear,

Bai Macfarlane