It's not.
Salvation is of the Lord.
You try to take away from God that which cannot be removed. Grace is a gift with no strings attached; no permission needed; no acceptance required; no C.O.D.
Salvation is of the Lord.
Stick around another three years and maybe you'll understand that's what the Arminians are saying.
You claim that it all finally made sense to you Dr. E. I'm happy for you. But you still don't understand what we believe.
Open the door, beloved, and He will come into your souls. He has long been knocking, and all with this object, that He may sup with you, and you with Him. He sups with you because you find the house or the heart, and you with Him because He brings the provision. He could not sup with you if it were not in your heart, you finding the house; nor could you sup with Him, for you have a bare cupboard, if He did not bring provision with Him. Fling wide, then, the portals of your soul. C.H. Spurgeon
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