[xzins]

It is an offensive word in any context except that in a children's book describing an actual kitty-cat type feline.

Whether talking of "weakling" or of female anatomy, it's original meaning derives from it being a coarse derivative connected to female anatomy.

Therefore, there is no "acceptable and non-confrontive" way to refer to anyone by that word.

[lockeliberty]

Yes, you've proven over and over again that you can only read in a wooden literal letter of speech instead of the spirit of the speech. Thus your problem.