My FRiend, I understand everything you say. I too am held captive by the church of Pelagius. I too understand the guilt trips which are employed as attempts to motivate people. I too face the reality of "friends" turning their backs because we can no longer endure in silence the gross theologies. I recently had to quit a Bible study and place distance between myself and one whom I treat as a friend because of things which were so outrageous they were adressed by the paid pastoral staff.
I am not in a position to be your advisor. But, I can be a sympathizer in your struggles. It is a shame we are not closer. Cling to your wife and know that the Lord may not be as interested in bring you out as He is in bringing you through your struggles.
Woody.
Thanks, brother. Your support is comforting to me. Sometimes, I really begin to think that I am alone, and perhaps a bit daft. As you know, it is very hard to be the square peg in a congregation of round ones. You get hit a lot harder, even though the hammer is the same. Of our friends, there is only one who has a reformed perspective. I'm not sure how many of the others would even understand why we left, even if it were explained to them. For the time being we are trying not to involve anyone else in our struggles.
Your advice is well taken, indeed. The Lord does not put us into this world to be comfortable, but to glorify Him. I have an inkling that this is a "training" experience that will be useful later. At any rate, it has me buried in the scriptures constantly.