OK, dear it might fix my headache

The Australian ^ | October 3, 2003 | George Gordon

[demlosers]

WOMEN are duty-bound to provide their husbands with sex on demand, claims a controversial book on achieving wedded bliss.

Wives have a "loving obligation" to have sex whenever they are asked for it - even if they are not in the mood, says American author Dr Laura Schlessinger.

The 56-year-old sex therapist and radio host says marriages will survive and improve if men are viewed as a "gift from God".

And she urges women to stop nagging and whining, saying: "Be honest girls, that's what we do".

Her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, will not be published until January, but it has already been labelled "outrageous" by feminists, marriage experts and psychologists.

Dr Schlessinger, who has a PhD in psychology, has written 60 books on marriage and attracts 100 million listeners every week to her radio show.

Her moralistic views have often clashed head-on with those who view marriage as an equal partnership.

In her latest book, she writes: "If husbands are expected to go to work and earn money and visit relatives they don't like, why can't wives put out on demand?"

Marriage counsellor Jennie Bergat condemned Dr Schlessinger's remarks.

"It is outrageous. Women have a right to be tired and if a woman is not in the mood, a man should respect that," Ms Bergat said.

"When you sign a marriage certificate you don't surrender privacy and rights. She is declaring that women are chattels to be used at the man's whim."

The Australian

[sweetliberty]

Hi stranger! Haven't seen you about for awhile. I have noticed, however, that you always seem to turn up on these "sex" threads. Hehehe.... Sorry; couldn't help noticing.

[proud American in Canada]

"I once had a girlfriend that said that....ahh....I was the cure for her when she had a sore throat. :)"

:) This is what I told my sister to do when she said her husband just wasn't interested.

[Cold Heat]

LOL! Hi back atcha!:-)

[sweetliberty]

"Recently celebrated my 55th wedding anniversary."

Congratulations! That is quite an accomplishment these days. I hope you will have many more.

[Centurion2000]

That might be fair as long as the wife is not working to also support the family,is the primary care provider for the children, and also does all the cooking and cleaning to boot. Oh, and may I add not having to spend time with his crappy relatives also.

Can she stay at home, take care of the kid(s) and clean the house and share the kitchen duties ? I'll mow the lawn and do the repairs in the house and that is fair enough for me. As far as crappy relatives, I'm sure an opt out system for visting them would be fair too.

[sweetliberty]

"Feminism changed all that."

Only for feminists and their unwitting victims. We are all bound by the principle of reaping what we sow, and it matters not whether we believe in it. Sure, things are out of balance and there has been, and continues to be, a lot of chaos as a result, not the least of which is in relationships between men and women. But think about it. The feminists don't really agree with the concept of marriage anyway, unless, of course, it is between queers, so if they enter into it at all, it is almost certain to be for the wrong reasons and will end in divorce with all the resulting pain and bitterness, which is often then misdirected at others who don't deserve it, drawing them into the cycle. It can be broken though and hearts can be healed.

[sweetliberty]

"a genuine "like" of each other, as well as love with each other."

That counts for a lot.

[sweetliberty]

"boy, am I gonna get it about this"

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[NCLaw441]

Flannel is ok, as long as it comes off easily.

[NCLaw441]

Forgive me, but may I ask about the frequency of intimacy in your marriage?

[TheCrusader]

"I can say with a bit of pride that my better half has not in any way been changed or influenced by Feminism in any way at all."

Your 'better half'? LOL

[anniegetyourgun]

Absolutely helps in all of those categories.....and certainly can't hurt!

[ValerieUSA]

I miss being married.

[Michael81Dus]

Sure. Women would never do THAT:

[bd476]

The irony found in the author's name, George Gordon, for this particular article is exquisite.

George Gordon, Lord Byron is one of the world's most notorious and published libertines.

[dawn53]

I replied that we fit into the "average" figures as mentioned in someone else's post.

But I'm wondering why you would ask?

When I spoke of planning intimacy, having a teenager and elderly person living in your home, it takes a little inventive thinking, actually scheming, to have privacy and time.

[dram]

Agree about the teenager thing. Things only get more difficult. You really need a "plan". I have one in college this year and one is a senior in high school.

I have to admit that I am not finding any women that have posted so far that work full time. Who is Dr. Laura talking to?

I have been married for 20 yrs. I met my husband in 1982 while I was in the Navy, stationed in Hawaii. Husband is retired from service and working full time as am I.

I have been a nurse for 23 yrs. With over 65% of couples being two-income families this subject seems kind of moot now. This is not to say that a woman who chooses to stay home full-time and raise the kids is not working. They definitely are.

I am just wondering about those of us who also have worked full-time outside the home? I know when my hubby was in the Navy I made more money than he did during most of his career. I certainly didn't expect him to be waiting and ready for me at any time just because I had a longer commute and my income was higher. As a matter of fact, I come from a family of 4 girls and 1 boy and all of my sisters make more money than their husbands. One sister has a stay-at-home husband.

I just felt that this article was a bit outdated. Seems like it was more geared towards women in the 1950's.