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Why is this restricted to men having low libido levels? Women have the same problem.

Ah, but if women don't want sex and men do, we're being "insensitive pricks who only view women as sexual objects". If women want sex and we don't, we're being "insensitive pricks who ignore our partners sexual needs". We're men, so it's our fault :-)

But to toss my two pence in here: After the birth of my first child, my wife put on 75 pounds and went on a two year nag fest. When our sex life dropped to once every six months, she started whining that I was "ignoring her needs". I responded that I'm an old fashioned conservative kind of guy...I'm only interested in having sex with my loving, affectionate wife. After bawling for a few hours, she admitted that she'd been a b*t*h and promised to change. She dropped about 50 pounds, knocked off the nagging, and basically started acting like she cared again. Problem solved...our relationship (and sex life) is stronger today than at any other point in our 11 year marriage.

If there's one message every woman should teach her daughter, it's this: Nothing kills a man's affection faster than nagging. Our mothers nagged us, and when you nag us you remind us of dear old mom. While men love their mothers, we aren't interested in being romantic with them.

Amen bro.....nothings harder than trying to get it on, closing your eyes and picturing her bitchin about something. Over the last 20 yrs. we've seen a whole generation of women grow up with more freedom, more job opportunities, more education, etc. than any generation in history and instead of being highly grateful for their lot in life still way too many women are unhappy, unfulfilled and still bitchin'. Also, out of this is a whole industry that's been created to remind them daily why they should be so miserable.

Exactly. Its an Oedipal thing. No man wants to make love to his mother. People tend to be sexually active until they have children and then it drops off after that. A couple can consumed with responsibilities and life's worries and two people need to make time for each other. That's important in our 24 hour a day on demand society to keep a relationship alive and healthy.

But to toss my two pence in here: After the birth of my first child, my wife put on 75 pounds and went on a two year nag fest. When our sex life dropped to once every six months, she started whining that I was "ignoring her needs". I responded that I'm an old fashioned conservative kind of guy...I'm only interested in having sex with my loving, affectionate wife. After bawling for a few hours, she admitted that she'd been a b*t*h and promised to change. She dropped about 50 pounds, knocked off the nagging, and basically started acting like she cared again. Problem solved...our relationship (and sex life) is stronger today than at any other point in our 11 year marriage.

If there's one message every woman should teach her daughter, it's this: Nothing kills a man's affection faster than nagging. Our mothers nagged us, and when you nag us you remind us of dear old mom. While men love their mothers, we aren't interested in being romantic with them.

You were clear, she listened. that is great. You both got what you wanted.