Sex-Starved Marriages - Women Struggle to Cope With Spouses' Low Sex Drives

ABC News ^ | 09/26/03 | John Stossel

[oceanperch]

LOL Just call me Skippy. : )

[peter the great]

I am sure weight does have something to do with this problem. However, I would be inclined to think that the source of this problem could be traced to something in our diets such as the hormones that are shot into farm animals such as cows or chickens or perhaps the source of the problem can be traced to our reliance on the microwave oven. Just a hunch.

[Archie Bunker on steroids]

Edith...not here you maniac.

[wardaddy]

I do have the hormones of an 18 year old.

...when I'm dreaming...

....sound asleep.

I think also there is some other stuff going on here about how folks act early on when they are on the hunt versus after the catch is complete.

Both sexes do that....you know...using all their talents judiciously to get whatever it is our heart and genetics are pushing us towards.

Once done...then it changes some and is like you said ...more vulnerable to other pressures.

[ChemistCat]

I did misunderstand you then and I agree with your second post.

On the women-who-act-right-being-over-70....

One of the marks of maturity in a woman is that she has learned to pick her female confidantes (sp?) carefully. When we're young we are careless about it and it does cause trouble. As we get older we learn to be very careful who we trust with personal information about our mates or lovers. We do, however, still need that, always. You would do better to be cautious of a woman who has no close female friends, than to be cautious of one who will tell her best girlfriend how you drooled on her pillow. I have two very close female friends whom I will tell anything. And they would never do anything to hurt me (or my husband) with what they know.

Your 70 year old women have usually figured this out...either that or they're psychotic old witches like my in-laws!

[CheneyChick]

Holy Mackerel this thread has a lot of posts!

[FreedomPoster]

So I can be a better QB if I get some Viagra? Dang, I need to get some of that! No need for it otherwise.

[KeyTapper]

Fact: Some men quit desiring their wives when they become fat pigs...stay in shape ladies (and men) and this won't be a problem!!! Oh, that's a ton of crap. I'm fatter than fat and my husband won't leave me alone.

[FreedomPoster]

I don't get the bashing of folks who are baring their souls and looking for help. It's not just you, but you're sure there. Who cares if their issue is slightly off of the direct topic of this ABC item?

[Nita Nupress]

In my experience some men do not have sex with their wives because the women are bitchy, condescending control freaks with a mean streak that would scare a badger.

LOL! Man, oh man, I sure wish I had the time to read this thread. It's probably a doozy.

Bookmarking for later...

[Smokin' Joe]

A stripper is not my idea of a paragon of fidelity.

Oddly, some are. The ones who aren't heavily into booze or drugs, have an old man and maybe a child or two at home, and are there to make money, (better money in a week or two per month than they would 9 to 5 in a conventional job). Most realize it is a sick world out there--pathogenically speaking, and do not want to take anything home but the money. They are educated enough to not buy into the myth that a latex condom with pores many times the size of a virus can protect against disease 100% of the time, and know that it only takes once.

But most of the women I have known who fit this description are into the adulation or the sense of power they get on the job.

Many others are there to support a habit, drug or alcohol, or have developed one along the way--by this time they usually look on their clientelle with disdain or outright contempt. Few who have a relationship going at home 'date' and most who 'date' charge for it. The job is definitely not for everyone, whether they are attractive enough to do it or not.

(Observations from 2 years of dealing blackjack in a stripper bar.)

[ChemistCat]

I've enjoyed it a lot, I have to say. Some touching moments, some funny moments, some irritating ones--no dull ones. I usually stay away from sex-related threads because they can get so crass, but this one was unique.

[sarasmom]

Oh please!
Rent a personality!
The topic on this thread is low male sex drive in marriage.
It is not an AOL free for all for every man who got divorced and hates his ex because she was an evil female.
Please dont attempt to view yourself as the voice of reason, while you "feel" everyones off topic pain.
Try to get a grip.

[Palladin]

This is one of the saddest threads I've ever read on FR. To think that young couples and middleaged couples are no longer enjoying the lawful, legitimate pleasures of married life! This is indeed a joyless commentary on the evils of this modern age, which have removed men and women from their original spousal roles.

Now, the young women must go out and compete in a cold, hard world of work and backstabbing cutthroat get-ahead-at-any-cost jobs, and many have lost the sweetness and softness of the women of yesteryear.

Men have become subservient and passive, choosing to spend their leisure time surfing the net, playing video games, or watching TV, instead of being strong and aggressive romantic partners.

It's a wonder any babies are being born at all!

And that's another thing: the young couple spends the first 5-10 years avoiding conception, in favor of accumulating things--cars, house, lavish vacations, all kinds of techie equipment, etc.

When they think they are "finally" ready for a child, the libido fizzles out.

Take it from an old guy with 45 years of fantastic sex behind him; eight children; and numerous grandchildren:

Some of you guys and gals have everything ass backwards!

[Calvin Locke]

Wild horses couldn't drag me into this thread discussion.

And you were post #4. May I compliment you on your prescience?

[oceanperch]

You have such an appropriate screen name for this thread though.

[wardaddy]

nice post!

[Quix]

I certainly agree.

I just think some need to focus on the pleasures of backrubs longer than others--so that the tension over performance anxieties has a good long chance to die--at least die down enormously.

[Quix]

It's more common than most think.

Certainly it's not something guys brag about--especially to other guys.