[John O]

As for my brother, he has decided to mantain this lifestyle despite the counseling. Did he get enough? Who can say...he feels like he has dealt with it enough and chooses that lifestyle.

My brother and I have dealt with our abuse a little differently. I don't talk about mine very often. It defines my brother and he is bitter and angry about it (emphasis mine)

The second law of homosexuality:
To the mentally healthy person (heterosexual) sex is something they do
To the mentally diseased ('homosexual') person, sex is everything they are

You've apparently forgiven and gotten over (for the most part) the sexual crime committed against you. Your brother has still not forgiven and is still trapped in the "sex is everything I am" mindset. Until he forgives his attacker he will remain trapped. So he chooses that lifestyle because he is still mentally diseased/damaged.

I learned that once I forgave it became a whole lot easier to get on with a normal life.

[Abram]

Interesting take...I think we see it about the same, but with a slightly different take. I see my brother's reaction as a coping mechanism for the abuse (although he claims to have had homosexual tendancies since as early in life as he can remember)...He sees it as who and what he is and has always been.

You are right that once you have accepted, addressed, and forgave..."normal" life was a lot easier to get along with.

Interesting take on things...good talking with you.