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My son was in daycare and then private school all his life. He was well-behaved and a good student in prvate school. He now has a good job and a wife who he met in private school.

At this late date, though, he complains about not having spent enough time with me as a child. His private school did have a lot of hoemwork, so a lot of our time together was spent working on that rather than fun activities.

Although he didn't act out after the terrible twos, I wonder now if my own boredom with the public schools as a child caused me to want something for him that he didn't really want. He is very athletic, and maybe he would have been happier with more sports and a shallower education. His sporting events away from school created transportation problems, so that if I was tied up he had to take a cab. In public school, he could have just got on the after-school bus like the band members and athletes did when I was a kid. Also in retrospect, he might have preferred the larger crowds n public school. I just assumed that, like me, he would tire of waiting for the slower students to keep up.

I think is a strange outcome of wanting something for your child that you wanted for yourself. He definitely was a privileged child, bu still he wanted more.

Stop punishing yourself. Our hindsight isn't always accurate. Your son did well in school and met his future wife there. He developed good work habits which were modeled by you as you helped him with his homework. Had he gone to public school, you might have emerged with a different son than you have now. The one you have sounds great. Perhaps you can plan some father-son events with him now, at this stage of life, if that's what he thinks he lacked in his childhood. He sounds like a son who is doing well. We all make the best decisions we can at the time. I think you did just fine.

I think is a strange outcome of wanting something for your child that you wanted for yourself. He definitely was a privileged child, bu still he wanted more.

He didn't want more, he wanted you

That is not strange at all. It is normal. Having your kids raised by strangers, now that's strange.