[DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet]

blam, I lost a brother, too...with no real warning, and no real opportunity to tell him how much I loved him. In my case, I had mailed him a card that never was opened - we found it slid under the door of his apartment, probably delivered a day after he disappeared.

I know what losing a sibling is like. (I've lost two, and I'm only 43.)

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through it.

[wimpycat]

A friend of mine lost his 27 year old brother to a drunk driver several years ago. He remembers thinking about his brother, "Now he has all the answers." (A funny thing about his brother--ever since he was a teenager, he said he knew he'd never live beyond 30. And not long before his death, he got a life insurance policy on himself. Strange, huh?)

Try not to fret over not saying what you think you ought to have said...your brothers know how you feel about them. They probably knew before, but they definitely know now.

My mom and I talked about this sort of thing after 9/11. We agreed that we know how we feel about each other, so if something were to happen to either of us, we'd not worry ourselves about what we should've or could've said to the other.