[sarasmom]

In that scenario, all the "good men" appear to be wimps.
Why would I want a man who cant compete with other men, but expects me to compete with other women?
Goodness knows I think men are, as a species, wonderfull!
Why would I, or any woman, want a testosterone deficient example moping around the house?
When and if the time comes that I can afford to become "involved" with a man again,I will be looking for a John Wayne,not an Allan Alda type.
I have my own portfolio,commonly called "baggage",that I manage quite well.What I dont have, a good man, is nothing that I need to survive, but who is a highly desirable addition to my life.
I will wait patiently.
Knowing I cant have a JW, unless I can give him what he needs and wants.
And I dont want to be bothered with the AA types, because they cant give me what I need and want.

[man of Yosemite]

How odd! John Wayne is my favorite actor of all time, and we grew up in the same hometown. I hope you find what you're looking for.

[BobS]

"In that scenario, all the "good men" appear to be wimps."

Been there, done that! I was a "nice guy" up until about 10-15 years ago! NOW, I FORCE women to compete for ME! All the "social justification" tricks from women I have in my shirt pocket. All the stupid pickup lines I had back then I have in my socks.

Those women who happen to have "the chip", I make them pull my finger, it just takes up to an hour to realize that they made a fool of themselves!

Those gals who spent their whole lives having gutlessg men tend to their every need never had a man who told them "NO" with the class I have. But I just tease them in the meantime for kicks, anyway.

You see, sarasmom, there were a lot of spoiled, self-centered women in CA to practice off of 10-15 years ago which I had absolutely no respect for anyway. So why not use them for stupid mental games? It's like shooting rabbits. But I have had monogamous, sensual relationships with real LADIES who I GREATLY respected, and may get married to one soon.

I want CLASS in a lady, along with the nice touch only a real WOMAN has.

A lot of the guys on this thread are sidetracked.

Hugs,
Bob