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When my husband was alive, I was a stay-at-home mom and that was best for us and our family - I believe it is the ideal family situation. We did not have a big house or fancy things, but we had each other. However, he was ill, a diabetic who did not take care of himself, and I knew I would be on my own without him at a relatively young age, so I did start working for local newspapers... at first I could do the writing at home, and only leave to attend meetings. I thought I was gaining valuable experience to help me get a job to support the family myself if such a necessity arose. Ha! All I found were employers who were happy to pay me a pittance and pile the work on. The outside job did not bring in enough money to make it worthwhile, nor did it do anything to help me get a job now when I need one.
Working wives and mothers need to honestly examine the benefits of their work to their family, and in most cases I think they will discover that they are losing, not gaining, in the long run.
Young women place too much emphasis on being self-supporting, but in real family life, it is far more important that they encourage men to support their families in the workforce, so the women can be the support system in the homefront.

>>"...it is far more important that they encourage men to support their families in the workforce, so the women can be the support system in the homefront."<<

Ain't it the truth. A concept that used to be upheld in society as best all the way around.

('stew: I can hear the wonderful sound of feminist gagging, can you?)

Agree with it all.

BTW, your information on your husband really hit home here. I have a 27 yr old brother who is diabetic and takes questionable care of himself. We lost our diabetic cousin when he wass 29 back in '96, so sometimes we all feel like the clock is ticking. Lately his "reactions" have got so bad that he went into convulsions and fell and broke a chair. This is scary stuff and we keep wondering when that time will come that someone won't be home to help him. You were wise to look forward. I did much the same thing, but in the way of life insurance. My husband is not unhealthy, but he does have a family history of men with circulation problems and he's now in his 40's(his dad passed in his mid or late 50's) I sure hope he's the exception that lives into his 80's(God knows my children adore him and it would break their hearts if he wasn't around), but we are taking precautions none the less.
If it's ok, I will be praying God brings into your life an amazing man for companionship and some rest from the weary work of parenting. You sound like a wonderful lady Valerie!