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Why would he date her for six months if he knew it would go nowhere?

If he's not in love by then, he ain't never gonna be.

Don't get me wrong, you could know somebody for years and years BEFORE you fall in love with them, but dating is different because it's courtship. It does raise expectations. At the very least, it raises questions. And she had every right to the answers even earlier.

Even FreeRepublic has many women not worthy of him.

Personally I think I'm too good for the little pompous ass (as well as too old, thank God). I'd never treat a man the way he treated her.

I still think you're reading too much into it. They were dating for six months and she wanted a committment (and sex). He never said he wasn't in love or that he didn't think their relationship was going anywhere; he just wasn't going to sleep with her unless they were married. Perhaps he was considering proposing to her; perhaps not. Six months is just not that long to be dating. We don't know whether they saw each other once a week, maybe only 24 dates, or every other day.

I'm almost 40. About three years ago, a friend my same age was married to a man after knowing him for about six months. She was certain she was in love; so was he. They divorced six months later. For some it may work, but six months is certainly not the definition of enough time. Courtship can take YEARS. I think it should take years. People are complex and getting to know a person, really know a person, takes time. Given the prevalence of divorce in our society, why rush into marriage?

Naw, just because he doesn't know if he wants to marry a woman in six months doesn't mean he's a control or any other type of freak. It means he's careful. That's a good thing. That he doesn't want to sleep with her unless and until they're married is an even better one.

Look at it another way. Let's say he gives her the committment after six months. The ring, the plans for the wedding, the whole nine yards. They have sex before marriage and then she decides that he's not the guy for her. He's blown his principles for nothing.

The strangest thing is this story all turned around. Women used to be in his shoes upholding morality. Now women (in general) are so slutty that they have no morality. I'd say N.O.W. has done its job.

Even FreeRepublic has many women not worthy of him.

Personally I think I'm too good for the little pompous ass (as well as too old, thank God). I'd never treat a man the way he treated her.

I reread the article, and I have to conclude that he does come off as a pompous ass. That tone of moral superiority kind of grates on your nerves. It's so ironic that this article turned up this morning, as I was thinking about my 5 year dry spell, and how cranky I'm getting, hahahaa!

It's one thing to have good morals, but the whole purpose of dating when you are young is to find the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. There should be signs of affection; if there isn't when you're dating, there sure won't be any after the marriage.