[Pan_Yans Wife]

Okay, they weren't a match made in heaven. But, to help her self-esteem, you say he should have slept with her, indiscriminately, for six months, then dumped her when he decided he didn't want to marry her. And that would have helped her self-image, how?

[hellinahandcart]

No, the kind thing to do would have been to stop dating her early on.

He knew darned good and well he wasn't in love with her (hell, everyone knows long before six months have passed, if they're not utterly neurotic), and it was wrong to mess with her head and keep her off the market when he knew his feelings and hers did not match up, and never would.

[sinkspur]

But, to help her self-esteem, you say he should have slept with her, indiscriminately, for six months, then dumped her when he decided he didn't want to marry her.

He didn't have to sleep with her. She didn't expect him to AS LONG AS he could tell her that there might be a future for them.

I admire this guy for not having sex with these women, but a woman can tell if a man's physically attracted to her, but just chooses to "save himself" until marriage. In fact, the woman above said SHE could wait, too!

No, as another poster said, this guy's graduated from manipulating women with sex to manipulating them with virtue.

Then, he gets to plead innocence when women accuse him of using them; that's exactly what he's doing.

I wonder if the guy's even been engaged in 12 years? If not, a woman would be advised to steer clear of this "boy."

[Tribune7]

Good answer.