[hellinahandcart]

I'm just putting myself in these womens shoes.

Thank you.

No passes made, no words of love, no promises for the future, and I'd start to wonder if maybe I'd found that rare man that doesn't want it AT ALL, even after marriage.

[sinkspur]

No passes made, no words of love, no promises for the future, and I'd start to wonder if maybe I'd found that rare man that doesn't want it AT ALL, even after marriage.

Yep. He also seems to be witholding his emotional involvement with these women. He is, in fact, using them, unless he tells them up front he just needs a buddy to go the ball game with. People date, ordinarily, to find mates.

If he's lonely, he should get a dog.

[TheSpottedOwl]

No passes made, no words of love, no promises for the future, and I'd start to wonder if maybe I'd found that rare man that doesn't want it AT ALL, even after marriage.

That is a good point right there. God made sex fun for a purpose. It's one thing to choose not to have men running in and out of your house in front of the kids, but not to want it at all doesn't compute.

[A_perfect_lady]

My mother's second husband "waited" till they were married. Then he waited some more. Turns out he was gay and in denial. After that, my mom was a little jaded. "Never buy a car without a test drive, honey," she'd say after a glass of wine or two.