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Hey, we're all shaped by our experiences. My experience with this issue overrides any of my political leanings, which happen to be predominantly in line with Free Republic (Christian, Pro-Bush, Pro-life, proud to be part of the radical right-wing conspiracy). I never expected to find this type of discussion on here... Personally, I define a deadbeat as any parent who physically, emotionally, or financially has no regard for their children. So all of this talk about money is only part of the problem. I agree totally with those that say this issue can only be solved in the home, marry the right person, etc., but what about abuse, abandonment, etc? Raising kids alone is not easy -- that's why God made our gametes haploid!!!

Rant begins:
I guess I get my dander up when I hear all of this "poor dads" stuff with no mention of what the moms go through raising these kids on their own, with no money and no help. Those parents who have to pay the other parent AND raise the children are the ones who have really been screwed. It's real easy to sit at the computer and judge others when you haven't been there. OK, so maybe I'm a little bitter about being a single mom divorced from an abuser who pays 10% of his income in child support, but buys a new house, truck and camper?? And, despite being an abuser, still gets significant time to torment my children? There are lots and lots of good dads out there, I just don't happen to know more than a couple! But I do know a lot of divorced moms who have issues like mine, with no help from the court.
Rant over.

I've heard the stories about people who abuse the system, or were screwed by the system, but isn't that the problem with government intervention in our lives in any case?? Nobody wins, life's not fair, the children are the ones who suffer. I suppose I agree with everyone out there whose real problem is with the Family Court system, who can't seem to see past the end of their benches. Or should it be the lawmakers, whose codes and rules the judges follow? So much bitterness, so many targets, and no solutions in sight...

I guess I get my dander up when I hear all of this "poor dads" stuff with no mention of what the moms go through raising these kids on their own, with no money and no help.

Poor lady walks out on dad then wonders why things got so much tougher all of a sudden. Back when all divorce was fault divorce, we had much less of that problem. I wonder why.

I'd be a liar if I told you I feel you're pain . Looks like you have a strong grip on the matter so I tip my hat off to you . I dont have all of the answers either but I do know what is not the answer .

Nonetheless welcome aboard !

And, despite being an abuser, still gets significant time to torment my children?

What definition of "abuse" would that be?

You think being a single mom sucks...try being raised by one.