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I challenge you to watch the agony of any human watching anyone they love die, what is your point? Does the death of a gay lover produce more pain than the dealth of a wife, husband or child, at any age? That gay love and agony is more, bigger, better, deserves more attention, deserves more pitty, makes the survivor a victim to be pittied more than all other survivors? Nonsense.

I had a friend who was whitty, intelligent, fun, good looking, compassionate and a good friend. He was gay, died of AIDS. I mourned! I know his ex-wife and daughter mourned. I don't know if his many lovers mourned for very long if at all. I don't have the authority to judge him, but once I asked him if he knew how he was going to die and spend eternity. He said yes, and yes. I still miss his special brand of sunshine. He was a Canadian!

I had a friend who was whitty, intelligent, fun, good looking, compassionate and a good friend. He was gay, died of AIDS. I mourned!

Obviously my post wasn't intended for you - it was intended for those who seem to think being gay is the ultimate sin, worse than anything anyone could possibly do. I was responding in particular to someone who said that gay "love" was impossible - that it was merely lust. I was implying that the love one person feels for another is not necessarily less valid because one is gay. I certainly didn't mean to imply that it was more painful, bigger, better, etc., etc., only that pure lust does not explain the behavior of a gay lover at the bedside of his dying companion.