Why is the USA the World's Divorce Leader? (Poll + FReeper's book on Dr. Laura)

www.knowingme-knowingyou.com ^ | May 28, 2003 | Malcolm B. Stephens

[only1percent]

I think that a significant error is made to associate, on the one hand, the sort of social pressure which restricts divorce and other socially destructive practices, and, on the other hand, the sort of overt social conservativism to which it seemed the author was alluding. In other words, the sort of community where 20% go to church weekly and 70% vote for Al Gore can be far more effective against divorce and illegitimacy than the community where 60% go to church weekly and 40% vote for Al Gore, if the former has higher incomes and better educations than the latter.

[RightWhale]

We're about there, Pilgrim. Plymouth Rock, dead ahead.

[T. Jefferson]

Women change, it's that simple...in personality and size. I'm single thank God, I've viewed at least 20 best friends get married. In all but one case, the women gained 25-40% body weight within 3 years. The loving personality becomes a distant memory, and men reach their snapping point.

Travel abroad and note the differences. In the last country I visited, I didn't see one overweight woman in a week, and literally had 3 and 4 at a time competing for me. Here you get enough baggage on a date you feel like UHaul. Oh, and you better have front row seats if you expect a phone call returned.

Why do married men die before married women? Because they want to.

[only1percent]

I'm not sure of this -- "fault" laws mainly put more money in the hands of the lawyers. To have a real effect you would have to restore them AND greatly restrict the "mental cruelty" and "constructive abandonment" grounds and proof of the same. The end result would be forcing people to stay married involuntarily -- is this what we want the state to be doing?

[LibertyAndJusticeForAll]

I agree, I've heard that the repeat offenders make this statistic rather inaccurate. First-time divorces are a lower rate.

[paul51]

If your wife see's your post #6, you are dead. LOL. If my x even saw me laughing at this she would probably come back to try and kill me!

[Saundra Duffy]

Divorce stinks but sometimes can't be avoided.

[TaxRelief]

The dirty little secret of the anti-family left:

The USA has a higher marriage-to-divorce rate
because they have a higher remarriage rate.
The ones who marry over and over (an American oddity) scew the statistics drastically.

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The Fact that matters to conservatives:

The stay-married rate for practicing Christians and Jews is 97.3%.

[Alberta's Child]

Why is a woman who believes in the radical notion that women are people too, and deserve the same rights and considerations as the other half of the human population, in other words a feminist, automatically considered a lesbian?

I'm sure that idea of "feminism" is not what the poster had in mind when he/she mentioned it as a factor in this country's position as the world's divorce leader. If you look at the organizations that are considered mainsteam "feminist" organizations these days (NOW, for example), you will find that their membership is comprised of a disproportionate number of lesbians.

[MattAMiller]

Divorce rates are utterly useless statistics. They usually compare the number marriages against to number of divorces in a single year. But the population of marriages which could potentially end in divorce is obviously going to be much higher than the number of weddings.

[Temple Drake]

"in personality and size" ... honey, give birth a few timnes and get back to me on that one. Actually, I LOL'ed when I read this because my idiot brother-in-law's first wife was a harpy built like a running back who left him to be a lesbo -- she was many inches taller and had to outweigh him by a good 60 lb. But the second one is built like ... oh, I don't know, Rosie O'Donnell? She is VASTLY larger. So he does seem to be lookin for BIGGIES right off the bat. It does seem, though, that idiots tend to find what they are looking for -- other idiots.

[T. Jefferson]

"in personality and size" ... honey, give birth a few times and get back to me on that one.

Funny you say that, the only wife of a best friend who didn't blimp out has 3 kids, she weighs less than when she got married. The secret....she works out 3 days a week. No great mystery.

[laredo44]

After 32 [mostly] blissful years, I can sum my "how to avoid divorce" advice up in three questions.

1. [Before you get married] Do I want to be married or single? If you answer single, or I'm not sure, stay single. Do not proceed to questions 2. or 3.

2. How would divorce and re-marriage to someone else NOT be trading one set of problems for another set?

3. [After you have children] What did my kids do to deserve the heartache their parents' divorce would cause them?

[Temple Drake]

you have given the very best post of all.

[laredo44]

you have given the very best post of all.

Here, here! Brandy and cigars for the perceptive, sophisticated gentleman concealing his modesty behind the nom de guerre Temple Drake.

[If you're female, I promise to flagellate myself in the morning.]

[Roxymoron]

Oh, so because I expect to be treated like a human being and not be automatically submissive to men, that means I have an "arrogant feminist attitude"? The kind of men that would be put off by that are the kind of men I wouldn't be interested in, frankly. And I have indeed had plenty of men express interest in me, the problem is that most of them were married and I don't do things like that; it's wrong and immoral, I don't care how unhappy they may claim to be, or how bad they claim their wife is. The truth is, they're probably unhappy because they expect their wives to meet all of their needs without being concerned about her needs as well. And I'm too exhausted as a single working parent to have much energy for dating, anyway.