[SouthParkRepublican]

”Aside from the other things mentioned, too many couples tend to pick someone based on lust which seldom lasts.

The catalyst for initiating a romance interest is usually mutual physical attraction (lust). There is nothing wrong with this manifestation but I certainly believe that on it’s own, it is no reason for marriage.

Now a marriage without lust… that’s a tough one. I would bet that out of every 10 no-sex relationships 9 of them can be attributed to one partner allowing their physical appearance to deteriorate. If I were a therapist (and thank God I’m not) I would tell couples to go home and look at pictures from when they first met and compare to see if they are aging comparably. Chances are one of them isn’t. Problem solved. Diet and exercise.

[Aliska]

You make a good point, but I submit that too many people don't even know anything other than lust. That's why, when it starts wearing off, we see such frantic efforts to find whatever will continue to turn one on, pornography, sex toys, sexy attire, etc., etc., etc. Eventually, there is little that will work any more. It's a downward spiral.

[Delbert]

I agree 100%. I can not for the life of me , understand how people can look at themselves, and be 40, 50,60 pounds overweight and say this ok. It is a major drag when one partner stays in shape and the other lets themselves just keep expanding and then say...."You dont look at me anymore, or why dont we do it more often?" Hello?!!! Obviously this thread hits pretty close to home ...I guess I'll just be quiet : (

[watchin]

I would bet that out of every 10 no-sex relationships 9 of them can be attributed to one partner allowing their physical appearance to deteriorate.

Nope. I understand you're thinking, but it's just not the case.

I've heard of many marriages where sex stops almost immediately after the wedding.

It's a matter of sex drive, or lack of it. There are thousands out there who are dying inside because of a lack of affection from their spouses. Quick fixes like yours, or the advice to do more chores, are not likely to work in the vast majority of cases.