[Woahhs]

I couldnt tell her this in a million years, because It would certainly hurt her feelings.

Kind of a thorny problem huh?

I always find it interesting when women manage to frame issues in such a way that saying something they don't want to hear is deemed an offensive act.

Have you considered her feelings could use a ding or two? It's not like her "spin" carries the same authority as Moses coming down off the mountain.

[Phantom Lord]

Honey, does this dress make me look fat?

It's not the dress honey

[Delbert]

Im not sure I am following you on all of this.....--->Have you considered her feelings could use a ding or two? It's not like her "spin" carries the same authority as Moses coming down off the mountain. <--- But we get along great and have a pretty good marriage, just this one issue, and there are alot of folks who would most likely call it my problem. Maybe it is, I know what I like, I know what I dont like. I dont like the excessive poundage on my wife.

[goodnesswins]

I believe when a woman gets really overweight after marriage there is much more going on than just the eating....and I'm not saying it's your fault...you seem like a caring man...just that people eat for LOTS of reasons. And, exercise has to be a habit like brushing your teeth....until people approach it that way, unless they are naturally inclined, they won't exercise. Find something your wife absolutely loves....and while making it clear you LOVE HER MADLY, use it (weekly 2 hours on her own, whatever) to get her exercising FIRST....then maybe you can figure out the food issue. (A family background (emotional, not physical) can have a lot to do with it.) Lecture over.