Here is a Russian lady waiting for you. ;-)
Posted on 04/30/2003 3:51:12 AM PDT by WaterDragon
American men use Russian women for self-affirmation. The latter seem to be liking this fact
Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious, Olga Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia's Academy of Sciences says. When an American man switches from the model of American family where husband and wife are partners equal in rights to the model of an Orthodox family, he thus raises his own significance. In Orthodox families men are given more authority and are more respected. It is certainly an advantage for a man and raises his social and psychological status. In a word, American men seem to have tired of the feminism propagated by American women, and it is frequent that they seek Russian women to start families.
Russian wives in America give up the traditional model of the Russian Orthodox family which relieves them of a heavy burden of responsibility and gives a chance to have a normal life in a family where the range of responsibilities is more definite for them: children, family affairs and housekeeping. At that, Russian women enjoy more attention and support from husbands.
As psychologists say, now Russian men undervalue the essence of family. The whole of the burden, housekeeping, upbringing of children, earning of money are shifted onto women. And, at the time when Russian women have so much responsibilities, their husbands spend their time dozing in front of TV sets in desperate attempts to find out the meaning of life and to understand the truth of the universe. They merely disregard everyday problems that are essential for their families as they consider the above mentioned idle thinking to be of higher importance.
That is why, as Olga Makhovskaya thinks relations in families between Russian and American partners are more harmonious. Each party gets what it wants to have. Husbands get authority and status, and wives are given, in exchange, peace in family and well-being. "Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role."
In addition, as researches held by Olga Makhovskaya reveal, marriages between Chinese men and Russian women are also very successful. ?There are tens of thousands of such marriages in Russia's Primorye region in the Far East. Chinese men are hard-working, they don't abuse in alcohol drinking and bring their wages home. In a word, they have lots of advantages by contrast with Russian men." It is sad, but the researches don't mention for whom Russian men suit wonderfully.
As a side note, while they were corresponding via the internet, she was attempting to learn English. Then after her arrival she continued taking English classes as well as enrolling in college......She has almost finished her degree and is majoring in math. She also was a classical trained pianist too.......
Until she arrived here she had never before driven a car because nobody in her family could ever afford to buy one.........
Lastly, she is a hardcore conservative and really gets animated when talking about liberals and their policies......
I’ve worked with three Air Force guys who had married Russians. I had a negative opinion when I first met each and learned of this. Then after I met each of their wives...I changed my mind on this topic. Each wife was tall, attractive, “leggy”, and very intelligent. They dress up whenever leaving the house and actually try to present themselves even if its just dropping the husband off at the office. The guys readily admitted that the Russian wives were conservative in nature and preferred guys who weren’t party-types or heavy drinkers.
I can walk into the base commissary on any Saturday and find at least two or three Russian wives now of Air Forces guys...must be at least twenty to thirty on base now. I also know of one case where a guy married a 19-year old Russian who was very serious into getting the green card immediately...which he delayed. After seven months of delaying her...she suddenly packs up one day and leaves. There are some cases of “green card fame”...but few. The key factor I noticed was that most of these guys married Russian women who were 30 or older.
I married a Russian women. It was, by far, hands down, no questions asked, the best thing I ever did. She has the same traditional family values I have, which is rare these days. Five kids later, not a moment of regret.
Make sure you remind her of how things were for her before she came here to marry you. She may have to re-assimilate herself in the next few years.
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