Posted on 04/30/2003 3:51:12 AM PDT by WaterDragon
American men use Russian women for self-affirmation. The latter seem to be liking this fact
Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious, Olga Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia's Academy of Sciences says. When an American man switches from the model of American family where husband and wife are partners equal in rights to the model of an Orthodox family, he thus raises his own significance. In Orthodox families men are given more authority and are more respected. It is certainly an advantage for a man and raises his social and psychological status. In a word, American men seem to have tired of the feminism propagated by American women, and it is frequent that they seek Russian women to start families.
Russian wives in America give up the traditional model of the Russian Orthodox family which relieves them of a heavy burden of responsibility and gives a chance to have a normal life in a family where the range of responsibilities is more definite for them: children, family affairs and housekeeping. At that, Russian women enjoy more attention and support from husbands.
As psychologists say, now Russian men undervalue the essence of family. The whole of the burden, housekeeping, upbringing of children, earning of money are shifted onto women. And, at the time when Russian women have so much responsibilities, their husbands spend their time dozing in front of TV sets in desperate attempts to find out the meaning of life and to understand the truth of the universe. They merely disregard everyday problems that are essential for their families as they consider the above mentioned idle thinking to be of higher importance.
That is why, as Olga Makhovskaya thinks relations in families between Russian and American partners are more harmonious. Each party gets what it wants to have. Husbands get authority and status, and wives are given, in exchange, peace in family and well-being. "Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role."
In addition, as researches held by Olga Makhovskaya reveal, marriages between Chinese men and Russian women are also very successful. ?There are tens of thousands of such marriages in Russia's Primorye region in the Far East. Chinese men are hard-working, they don't abuse in alcohol drinking and bring their wages home. In a word, they have lots of advantages by contrast with Russian men." It is sad, but the researches don't mention for whom Russian men suit wonderfully.
Like my Italian wife (family from Parma) - Little Napoleons!
It's even more painful to experience. I'm pale Irish and experienced 3 layer burns...under a Michigan sun. I learned from that the hard way and use the sunblock when need be.
Brazilian and Columbian women are OFF DA HOOK!
Congratulations! And I mean that most wholeheartedly!
I have a friend who is seriously looking at meeting and perhaps marrying a woman from the former soviet union who asked for My advice in this matter. At first I was reluctant to participate in any manner, but he finally convinced Me to at least examine the situation and perphaps provide another perspective. In short, do not believe all the hype. Although gold-diggers and scammers do exist, if you approach it in a realistic manner your chances of being duped are quite slim. He is using several methods of insuring that the women he finds of interest are truly what they claim, including using agencies that personally screen each prospective candidate and verify that they are who they claim to be -including valid ID's, verifying job and position by actual visits, and representatives personally visiting her claimed residence to substantiate it.
They also personally screen the women prior to acceptance, and keep an eye on all correspondence to prohibit 'form-letter' generating women, and some who attempt to send untrue information or attempt to request financial support. They immediately discharge those who do so, and pull their profiles from their website and inform the individual(s) she was in contact with of the occurance. There is even a 'Black List' of such individuals available to help insure that others are aware of her true intent.
I must admit, even being on the sidelines on this, there are some amazingly sweet, attractive, and feminine ladies looking for someone to love.
For those of you who sneer at someone who you might feel had no choice but to 'stoop' to seeking their prospective mate overseas, let Me assure you that the women assure Me that he has had several offers, and tell Me he is considered "REAL good-lookin' " and "handsome" -and yes, those are direct quotes, so you would think that he would have no problem with finding someone closer to home. I happen to agree with him, however, that most american women... how shall I put it delicately... have adhered to such an arrogant and inflated opinion of themselves that foreign national women are quite a cut above them.
Go ahead, flame Me you who feel that anything other than an american woman is contemptable. You would not be the first, but I stand by My opinion. I, as well as My friend, personally would PREFER an american woman, but finding an acceptable one is quite difficult. All you posters who claim that there are so many available attractive, unattatched, conservative, and bloody well FEMININE ladies about simply begging for a decent man, well, he and I have no idea where you've hidden them.
ROFL! Did you think the posters would share? I have no idea where the wonderful women have been hidden, either!
I'm one of them :)
I am currently engaged to a beautiful Russian woman from the city of Kazan. We exchanged IM for about 4 months DAILY from October until I met her for Valentine's Day in Moscow. I spent 12 days in Russia and they were the BEST in my life. It's not the scenery; it's the company you keep.
Without a doubt, Russian women are TEN times the women that most american women are. They are intelligent, feminine, cultured, well-mannered and have NONE of the poltical or feminazi hangups of the american women that I have met or talked to. There is no 'princess complex' there is no sense of entitlement, and every one of them knows about how hard work pays off.
Men and women here will go on about how to find a conservative, moral american woman here, but I can tell you that they are so rare that they might as well not exist anymore. So, american men are deciding to take matters in their own hands and seek elsewhere.
I have never been happier with a woman than I am now. All I'm waiting for is her fiance visa and it's back to Russia to bring her home.
And for anyone thinking that she is hungry for a green card, know this; she had a visa into England and gave it up.
Any freeper men interested in more details or how it works, feel free to freepmail me.
Please... no commercial advertising for the Russian Bride companies.
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