I understand now. Those who value freedom and democracy are nihilists who would permit everything and still expect liberty. Those who want to prohibit certain acts in their communities are actually the enemies of liberty and freedom. They are only qualified to practice a private morality that applies to their own lives and the lives of their families; they are not allowed to have their "private" morality influence their community, the state government, or the federal government. I understand your position.
Evidently, since the Founders saw fit to allow the states to prohibit private sexual behavior, it follows that they were enemies of liberty. Only the nihilist, since he permits everything, is a true friend of freedom and democracy. Do I have that about right?