Sorry, but behavior is always a choice. People who cannot choose their own behaviors are a threat to themselves and to others.
...but most of the rest of us are a little more definite in which gender we're attracted to.
'Gender' refers to grammar. We're discussing behaviors and choices, right and wrong.
If you've got some choices to make however, I'm sure someone out there is willing to help.
No help needed. I'm normal. Thanks for caring.