Pregnancy After Menopause

The Washington Post ^ | 11/12/2002 | Lindsay Tanner

[mlmr]

At least you are just exhausted, I would be in a rubber room. ;o)

Sometimes I am exhausted in a rubber room.....

[Dianna]

I had my kids at age 30, 32, and 33 and I WILL be here for all those events. They already graduated from high school, they are 18, 19, and 21 and I am 51 now. I wouldn't have had kids in my twenties for anything! NO WAY!!!

I think I was influenced to have my children (relatively) young because my parents were so young. By the time I was 16 or 17 (two older sibs) my mom and dad were having a grand ole time at not quite 40 years old. And I think part of that was because they HAD struggled for so many years while we were young. I admired that.

I was 23 with my first and 29 with the second. I was very, very much more patient with my first. My little one goes to kindergarten next year, and I'm going back to school.

[shhrubbery!]

I have never understood why people turn into instant condemnatory busybodies when it comes to what others decide in the child-rearing department. Live and let live.

Maybe it's because our children have to play/go to school/grow up with their children?

I for one don't like to have my teenaged children hangin' out with kids whose parents are too self-involved to pay proper attention to their progeny. That would also go for teenaged children whose parents conceived them so late in life that they were 'out of it' by the time the kids hit the dangerous adolescent years.

Not that I plead guilty to your epithet 'busybody,' but I sure as heck will be judgmental.

[M. Thatcher]

Not that I plead guilty to your epithet 'busybody,'

Oh, you fit. Perfectly.

That would also go for teenaged children whose parents conceived them so late in life that they were 'out of it' by the time the kids hit the dangerous adolescent years.

Tell me, almighty one. What is the cutoff date that you approve? Is a parent allowed to be 40? 45? What is your law?

And how on earth did you get so full of yourself? Perhaps YOUR parents weren't the "right" age, because they clearly raised a miniscule, malformed, and malignant soul.

[shhrubbery!]

Oh, you fit. Perfectly.

Sorry, a busybody is someone who meddles in the lives of others. If having a strong opinion and expressing it in an anonymous forum is what constitutes a busybody, then everyone who posts on FR is a busybody. You included.

What ridiculous spitefulness. You've taken an opinion, directed at no one in particular, personally. Perhaps it is you, dear, who have a problem.

[M. Thatcher]

Yeah, here's my "problem": I don't give a sh#t who has how many kids at what age, so long as they are MARRIED. Because (drumroll) it is none of my frickin business.

None of yours, either.

[TimewarpUK]

hello.. I'm from the UK and I have read all the posts in this thread with great interest until the ones where you all start bitchin' ladies. Dont do that - it isnt necessary.
ok .. I have been married twice and have three grown up sons. I married the day before I was 20 and had my first son at 21 followed three years later by the second (you do the maths).
Then I divorced and re-married and conceived my third son when I was 38. Docs got a bit nervous about me being "an older mother" as they do.
Third pregnancy was a breeze and the birth was a bit longer but hey..everything worked.
As a mother I was far more patient, able to buy my baby all the things I wanted because of better financial stability and hope I was a far better parent having the knowledge that a baby is expensive both in material terms and pschycological terms too.I was mature!
I have been divorced a second time for some years now. My first marriage lasted 17 years and my second then same!
I have been split from a long term partner of 18 years (control freak whom I loved to distraction ..but he got so obssessive).
So four years alone.. fine.
Alone but not lonely. Now ladies - atthe age of 71(in March) I am engaged to the most wonderful man who has just turned 48... (waits for gasps}. Before you all float back to earth from the heights of incredulity, disgust etc etc let me say that even my doc thinks I am 52.. not being boastful have just been blessed.
My fiance..wants a baby and his daughter has offered us an oocyte or more.he wants to honeymoon in Italy so I could have the necessary hormone treatment.
Let me have your comments.
Constructive and not insulting or abusive wuld be nice.
Yes, my energy levels wuld be lower but my prospective husband is fit as a flea and very athletic. As to the dying thing... my grandfather used to say "Tomorrow is never promised"
I like to think I would still be a good mother, knowing the pitfalls and after all some children are raised by grandparents anyway.
TimeWarpUK
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