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hello.. I'm from the UK and I have read all the posts in this thread with great interest until the ones where you all start bitchin' ladies. Dont do that - it isnt necessary.
ok .. I have been married twice and have three grown up sons. I married the day before I was 20 and had my first son at 21 followed three years later by the second (you do the maths).
Then I divorced and re-married and conceived my third son when I was 38. Docs got a bit nervous about me being "an older mother" as they do.
Third pregnancy was a breeze and the birth was a bit longer but hey..everything worked.
As a mother I was far more patient, able to buy my baby all the things I wanted because of better financial stability and hope I was a far better parent having the knowledge that a baby is expensive both in material terms and pschycological terms too.I was mature!
I have been divorced a second time for some years now. My first marriage lasted 17 years and my second then same!
I have been split from a long term partner of 18 years (control freak whom I loved to distraction ..but he got so obssessive).
So four years alone.. fine.
Alone but not lonely. Now ladies - atthe age of 71(in March) I am engaged to the most wonderful man who has just turned 48... (waits for gasps}. Before you all float back to earth from the heights of incredulity, disgust etc etc let me say that even my doc thinks I am 52.. not being boastful have just been blessed.
My fiance..wants a baby and his daughter has offered us an oocyte or more.he wants to honeymoon in Italy so I could have the necessary hormone treatment.
Let me have your comments.
Constructive and not insulting or abusive wuld be nice.
Yes, my energy levels wuld be lower but my prospective husband is fit as a flea and very athletic. As to the dying thing... my grandfather used to say "Tomorrow is never promised"
I like to think I would still be a good mother, knowing the pitfalls and after all some children are raised by grandparents anyway.
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