Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article

To: mason123
I know you're giving serious consideration to my communication, mason123. And there's only one more thing I want to add to what I've already suggested. When characterizing someone's behavior as boorish in front of others, you risk shaming them. I'm sure you didn't realize this and I would never suggest that you would deliberately be callous. But this is terribly damaging to that person's self-esteem. Wouldn't it have been so much more considerate and effective to communicate your concerns about her behavior privately, rather than taking her to task in front of people? I'm sure you agree, and I'm also sure that when you apologize to her for using that hurtful word, "boorish," you will also ask her forgiveness for doing that so publicly. Just think how good you will feel when your fine gesture opens up communication, validates your mutual humanity and restores RooRoobird's trust that she will not be exposed to scorn when she expresses herself.

Do it, mason123. We will all be so proud of you when you set this good example.

122 posted on 10/21/2002 11:49:13 AM PDT by Bonaparte
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 88 | View Replies ]


To: Bonaparte
Gawd! You're SCAREY good at that!
137 posted on 10/21/2002 1:09:22 PM PDT by rockrr
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 122 | View Replies ]

Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article


FreeRepublic, LLC, PO BOX 9771, FRESNO, CA 93794
FreeRepublic.com is powered by software copyright 2000-2008 John Robinson