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Army of Love
Family of 19 Relies On Chore Lists, Laughter
Good Morning America ^
| 8/16/02
| ABC News Staff
Posted on 08/16/2002 7:56:55 PM PDT by antidisestablishment
Army of Love
Family of 19 Relies On Chore Lists, Laughter
Aug. 16 Early morning at the Dunham family home, the coffee is brewing, and all is peaceful
but not for long. Soon, there is a bugle call to wake the kids up all 17 of them.
The Dunhams are what you might call a mega-family, and running a family this size is much like a military operation, with mom serving as the general. First, there is a wake-up call for the four littlest girls. "OK who wants Cocoa Puffs, and who wants Rice Krispies?" the mom, Paula Dunham asks.
Next, she rouses the five older girls, and then finally, all eight boys.
"When you have this many, you have to know what you're doing otherwise you just sink," Dunham told Good Morning America.
The Dunhams are a minority in a country of mostly two-family kids, but they're not alone. An estimated 3.5 million U.S. families have four or more children. Like other extra-large families, the Dunham family came together through a combination of birth and adoption. Others are blended families from two previous marriages.
Yet the organizational skills that the Dunhams have adopted can serve as an example for families of any size.
Big Family, Two Bathrooms
For the Dunhams, everyone the eight biological kids and the nine adopted ones has to pull their weight by completing chores that range from clearing the dishes, to mowing the lawn, to cleaning the bathrooms.
The latter duty is especially important: the house's 17 children and two adults have only two bathrooms to share. The space shortage means that mobilizing the troops can take some time.
After attending church, the family heads to the supermarket, where they pick up four pounds of deli meat, three loaves of bread, countless bags of chips and three gallons of milk. It is enough for one lunch.
Back home the frontline is the kitchen, where sandwiches are made for the seven youngest. The older ones must fend for themselves.
"Zach, Danny, you guys better get in here!" yelled the dad, Paul Dunham, summoning the boys to come in and prepare their lunches.
Meanwhile, the mom, Paula, is checking out the chore list.
"Romnick, you have dishes next," she called.
Developing a Sock System
Paula Dunham, aka "General Mom" has gotten used to four loads of laundry every single day.
"The simple fact remains that we just have hundreds of socks," she said. As the editor of large-family magazine, Joyfull Noise, Paula says she often hears from readers who have used varying techniques to deal with the sock dilemma.
Some use zipper pouches for each child's socks, others pin pairs together, some used different colored threads to differentiate the socks, and others just use a big laundry basket that allows all the family members to find their own matching socks.
Most of the time, everything runs smoothly. For the children, there's always a playmate, whether the kids shoot hoops, wrestle, play cards, or just lounge around on the couch together.
The Special Ingredient
Paula and Paul Dunham always knew they wanted a lot of kids, though they never imagined the number that they now have, and never thought their days would be a blur of skinned knees, hugs and runny noses and meals big enough to feed an army.
"We can go through a gallon of ketchup in a day's time," Paul Dunham said.
But the most important ingredient for the family doesn't come in a bottle.
"We laugh a lot, this whole family laughs a lot," Paula Dunham said.
They've found that laughter and love expand to fill the available space. And that the joy of toothbrushing and bedtime stories doesn't seem to pale no matter how many tired foreheads they kiss.
Tomorrow they will sound the bugle again, as they rouse their special army of love.
TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: catholiclist; children; largefamily; prolife
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To: antidisestablishment
Determination and joy. Sure, things can be tight, even with just my two jedis to deal with...but the joy in this household is incredible. My two jedis live life with such gusto.
To: another cricket
This wasn't deep, merely simplistic satirical commentary of the way the AM shows show "deep concern" over every little thing that the American public, individuals or families accomplish without the help of the Federal Government
This family is to be commended as resourceful and committed to the ideals that the, if I may use the antiquated term, pioneers of decades ago used.
These folks use their inventiveness, their organizational skills and the sense of "family" to work together to accomplish whatever challenge is before them.
Unlike the pap show that they were on whose producers think the government is an end all fixer to all domestic, rural, urban, personal, marital or whatever problem is next portrayed in the teat-fed media, these folks have, so far, defeated the Socialist Nanny-Government government that would otherwise take over their lifestyle by telling them who, what, where, when and why they should accept Government aid/help.
So far, they have defeated the Socialist ideologists who would take their freedoms of choice away from them.
That is a very good thing...
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posted on
08/16/2002 9:56:17 PM PDT
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Vidalia
To: 2Jedismom
Amen! That's why we named our large family magazine
Joyfull Noise.
To: carpio
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posted on
08/16/2002 10:03:32 PM PDT
by
Vidalia
To: antidisestablishment; Polycarp
I seem to have deleted the file with my bump list. I'll work on getting it back, as I would like to bump this. In the mean time maybe polycarp can.
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posted on
08/17/2002 12:20:24 PM PDT
by
patent
To: patent; Siobhan; sitetest; JMJ333; narses; Catholicguy; *Catholic_list; Notwithstanding; ...
Happy to...pinging.
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posted on
08/17/2002 12:27:37 PM PDT
by
Polycarp
To: antidisestablishment
Close friends here have 12 of their own. He is a self employed carpenter, he makes furniture in his basement shop. They homeschool, and the two oldest are now freshman and sophomores on full paid scholarships for music degrees in a well respected local university. Mom and dad only have HS degrees. He now makes some of the kids musical instruments from scratch. Eight of their children now play either violin, cello, or viola.
Congrats on your appearance. You make all of us proud, even those of us with big family hearts but not granted the big family by Our Lord (yet, hopefully.)
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posted on
08/17/2002 12:38:40 PM PDT
by
Polycarp
To: antidisestablishment
"Honestly, there is nothing special about us." Well, I suppose you have a right to your misguided opinon... I think most of us will disagree however.
Blessings to all of you!
-grump
To: Polycarp
Thanks for the ping.It's rejuvenating to read articles like this.May God continue to bless them and may more people,exposed to stories about families like this, recognize the beauty and satisfaction and wonderfuness of living a life far from the politically correct,socialogically "normed" and Planned Parenthood approved,mainstream.
To: patent
I was going to bump it and then noticed that Polycarp did right below your post.
Antidisestablishment and family,
May God bless all of you in your abundance as well as His abundance.
Salvation
To: antidisestablishment
How wonderful!! I got tears in my eyes reading your replies about your family. We don't have cable so I couldn't see the program (we live out in nowhere, so no over the air telecasts either-that we can see!).
We *only* have six, but I'm still pretty young ;-) Last night all the mobile kids (5) were playing around the table and my husband remarked, "Look at that gaggle of kids!" to which I replied, "Doesn't look like that many to me!"
When we fill our house, THEN we will have a lot! LOL!
God Bless you (more!)
To: antidisestablishment
praise God, thanks for the ping. it is very inspiring to see that there are still people out there who dont spit at God's blessings! i pray that someday God will bless me with a huge family too.
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posted on
08/17/2002 6:34:05 PM PDT
by
pro-life
To: antidisestablishment
God bless you! I'll be praying for you and your wonderful family. Your story just makes me smile and smile.
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posted on
08/17/2002 7:06:19 PM PDT
by
Siobhan
To: antidisestablishment
Great story.
Thank you.
God bless you all.
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posted on
08/17/2002 10:05:04 PM PDT
by
katnip
To: patent
Thanks for the bump. I was wondering why I hadn't had a bump from you in a while. I thought it was just because of the new forum features. Anyway, thanks again.
To: Polycarp
Sorry for the delayed reply. I have been offline for a week. Longest FR free period in a long time!
Thanks for your kind words. I am not musically inclined at all, but I do love all sorts of music. My wife and one of my sons sing and our oldest boy plays guitar. It is wonderful to hear about your friend's family.
To: grumpster-dumpster
Sorry for the delayed reply. I have been offline for a week. Longest FR free period in a long time!
Well, I suppose you have a right to your misguided opinon.. LOL ... You don't sound so grumpy to me!
To: Salvation
Thanks. His abundance is all ours.
To: antidisestablishment
WAY TO GO!!!!
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posted on
08/23/2002 8:52:10 PM PDT
by
dennisw
To: antidisestablishment
This is beautiful. I know two mega families and they are the most human, happy, fulfilled, alive and purposeful people I know. These are mini-nations. The children will always know the joy of extended families. Great post.
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posted on
08/23/2002 8:53:01 PM PDT
by
ASDFGHJK
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