Yeah, that's right. The father wasn't "out of line," and his criticism was valid, but he really had no reason to expect the Clinton administration to act in a competent manner.
What I've always found interesting is that Vietnam veterans I've known can be divided into two groups: One group pushed their own kids to join the armed forces, out of a sense of patriotism or something of that sort. The other group would have disowned any child of theirs that even thought of joining the armed forces, out of a sense of betrayal over what they themselves had gone through.
It's actually amazing -- in my experience there has been no middle ground in cases like this.
Well, in my opinion Clinton never acted in a competent nor in a a respectful way. AS for your children, never force them into anything. Let THEM decide. Not all people are cut out for the military nor a lot of other professions that perhaps their dads or moms are in. Hell, look at Clinton. He wasn't cut out to be President.