We work as much as it takes to provide a good life for our families. We don't expect to be "validated" for it every hour or so? We grow up knowing this is what we will do and just deal with it. We don't work to "prove ourselves" or "be stimulated" or "do something meaningful".
And we love every second of having a family.(at least I do). But this can all be taken away from us at the drop of a hat and we get to pay for that wonderful experience as the disgruntled wife leaves with the children. Does not matter one bit whose fault it is AND
Then we usually die 7-10 years earlier than our wives after having worked forever to insure that they will survive comforatbaly and that our children and grandchildren if possible will have "a leg up" in life.
I have witnessed women waiting too late since the early 80s when I lived in Manhattan and all the late 30s boomer chicks were absolutely freaking about having a family. A woman should look to starting her family by age 30 at the latest if she wants a large one and if she does want a large family, she will have to forgo "fulfillment in business"...whatever that means...for a decade or so. Unless she is very very lucky....but then the children will suffer. It is simply not the best of both worlds when both parents are gone away to work all the time.
Right you are! I also liked your comments to the male basher.