Anytime a gay person does something heroic or could be protrayed as a sympathetic victim, their sexuality is irrelevant, pointless, gratuitous and is not to be mentioned.
On the other hand, whenever a gay person does anything scandalous, criminal, or even slightly objectionable (say, consider an ambasadorship), their sexuality must be addressed and preferably vilified, whether or not it's germane to the controversy.
Any variation on these rules shows a clear pro-homosexual bias.
Touche'.
Take my advice: Do not go there.