[InvisibleChurch]

not playing the victim mentality, just discussing a fact of their marriage...it was one of the things they agreed to before they were married...when you're with the same people for 165 hours and nuts to boot, something's got to give

[Exigence]

it was one of the things they agreed to before they were married...

Exactly. They *agreed.* She is 100% responsible for her own choices. Now you're giving her the "insanity defense" by saying she's "nuts" and "something's got to give."

That's victim mentality.