You are so hung up on the physical, and speak of "urges" as though we are powerless to control them. How shallow! Let me fill in some blanks for you: I am 50. I have 3 grown children who are every man's dream as far as how they've grown into wonderful, well-adjusted, productive and genuinely nice people. That was in spite of the divorce that happened as they were just becoming teen-agers. They survived it in fine fashion. Was it hard work to make sure they didn't stray? Yes, and doubly hard since they had no stable home-life. At this point, they are giving me grandchildren, 4 so far, and I have no intention of making any more babies myself. I've had 11 years to learn how to deal with my "urges", and my sex drive hasn't diminished one bit. However, I have no outlet for it, so I channel that energy into other things. When I say "the right woman", I could write a book (or at least a small pamphlet) on what I mean by that. She isn't going to get "fat and unattractive", because quite frankly, women who let themselves get that way have problems and issues they're not dealing with. You assume an awful lot about things you know nothing about. You obviously haven't occupied this planet as long as me, or many others here, and you aren't as knowledgeable as you'd like to think. I once thought as you, but I've learned through experience that there is more than just the physical. Looks fade, beauty is relative, and tastes change. You're pretty vocal on these threads, and I get the impression that you're talking more than you're listening. God gave you two ears and one mouth, and that's the ratio that works best between talking and listening: listen twice as much as you talk.
"It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."