Sorry here, dear, but you are flat out wrong on this one. Sometimes, although, granted, not often, SURVIVAL is THE key issue. When one spouse is REALLY in fear of their and/or their children's survival, there is a REAL cause/necessity for divorce. Case in point: I married in my early twenties to a man who, like myself, was a "social drinker". Two children later, he began keeping company with several single guys who drank heavily (probably due to the fact that I saw it as our responsibility to stay home MOST nights and raise our children instead of allowing his mother to do it - so he started going out by himself). Well, to make a long story of several deteriorating years short, he turned into a full-fledged alcoholic, later got into drug abuse (never mind the AA meetings that a long-time friend of his and I tried to support him through), became verbally AND physically abusive (almost killed me twice - once after being released from a rehab center because the insurance ran out). With a few more twists and turns to the process I finally filed for divorce. Does it make me selfish that I wanted to be able to live and raise my children (the ones that I had already been essentially raising by myself for over 10 years) or does it simply mean that I had done all I could to rectify the situation and finally realized that I coulnd't do it and wanted my children and I to spend the next years in a safe environment? Go ahead, make sweeping generalizations if you wish but, be careful about lumping ALL divorces or ALL situations into one category please. Not every situation will fit the generalization.