WHY DIVORCE IS SO PREVALENT: The #1 Answer To Society's #1 Problem

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[Dr. Octagon]

Link: Dads Against The Divorce Industry

[Dr. Octagon]

See link in post #21

[Dr. Octagon]

Baskerville said, "Overwhelmingly that´s true. And what´s even more shocking is that the parent that divorces is almost always the parent who expects to get custody of the children. A study by the University of Iowa found that the expectation of getting the children was the single most important factor in deciding who files for divorce."

[alaskanfan]

Prudhoe, Kuparuk, or Nuiqsut.

I'm a whore for oil dollars.

[NoControllingLegalAuthority]

2) financial difficulties

A whole generation lived thru the Great Depression. The divorce rate during the tremendous financial difficulties of the Great Depression never approached what it has been during our time of relative affluence.

Perhaps "financial expectations" would be closer to a cause of today's marital problems.

When my wife and I were married in 1971, we didn't "expect" an expensive honeymoon, big salary, new house, new cars, new furniture, electronic gadgets, computers and other measures of affluence right out of the chute.

We expected to have to WORK for years to improve our creature comforts.

We still don't have all that stuff and DON'T NEED all that stuff. We're still married - 30+ years later.

Nobody wants to wait for anything today. Maybe today's expectations are the problem.

[thud pilot]

The biggest single reason for divorce is the present day aversion to COMMITMENT! Most are afraid of it and a large number really don't understand it. It sorta like "I'll try it (marriage) for a while and see if it works out. zero commitment. Something will make it NOT work out.

[Dr. Octagon]

There are predominating sociocultural factors which engender an antipathy toward the maintenance of marital commitment.

One such factor is the concrete expectation of custody-advantage in divorce.

[longleaf]

If you want less of something, tax it. How about a "for the children" "emergency wartime" tax on divorce falling on the party who files for it? The more confiscatory the levy, the fewer divorces you will see. I guarantee it.

You might say that this would just cause people not to marry. If you want more of something, subsidize it. The government can use some of the proceeds from the divorce tax to pay marriage bonuses.

I realize none of this will ever happen.

[Consort]

About 96% of the people know how to fall in love, but only about 7% of the people know how to stay in love.

[SmartBlonde]

I agree. I talked yesterday with a woman whose husband's first wife walked out on him and a 2 year old - wanting to 'find herself'. She had joined a women's group - 39 members - more than half of them were divorced within a year. She returned 4 years later and the judge gave her custody of the child in spite of the fact she was employed part-time and had another child by another man.

I think there's something to this 'group think' thing - they feed on each other - sort of like vampires!

[Dr. Octagon]

The divestiture of the current gyncentricized and virtually immutable child-custody advantage would be the single most powerful tool for dramatically decreasing the divorce rate here in the United States of America.

[Dr. Octagon]

About 96% of the people know how to fall in love, but only about 7% of the people know how to stay in love....

[be131]

Actually we can only conclude that Girls = +/- Evil

[be131]

I screwed up. We can conclude that Girls = Evil. Sorry.

[Governor StrangeReno]

Whatever income im on ,the manner to which I am accustomed slightly exceeds input,therefore it is not economically viable to entertain marriage,but I've had a hell of a good time.If I were to marry it would be to a best friend,but I would require a woman,not a female,therein lies the problem most are how would you say,regardless of looks,ordinaire these days.

[Lizavetta]

Infidelity and really bizarre situations tend to be restricted to the Dr Laura call-in group.

Actually, Dr. Laura gets plenty of calls from spouses, usually women, who married an X and are now complaining about his X-like behavior, trying to change him into a Y.

[Dr. Octagon]

Wanting to change an XY into an XX...

[Vicki]

I think the reason the divorce rate is so high is because people are so self-absorbed. It's "me", "me". That doesn't work in marriage.

Divorce is devasting to children.

[Dr. Octagon]

It amazes me that family courts have literally been imbued with the power to tell one parent that they are a parent no longer,only a visitor in the lives of their own children...

[alaskanfan]

Speaking from personal experience, I do not know how to read into a conversation , things that are not stated outright. Thank God I am unable to father children.

If only I would known this fact at the age of sixteen.