War is hell and there is no such thing as a "civilian" in terms of modern warfare. There are combatants and non-combatants. Non-combatants comprise of that sector of the population that make up the logistical support in any war effort and in my view represent as legitimate a target for destruction and obliteration as is an infantry man with a rifle.
We can be magnanimous after the enemy totally and completely surrenders, until then there can be no quarter given. The enemy knows quite well what the consequences of engaging in or supporting aggression is.
I also subscribe to the idea that a population of a nation is responsible for the leaders they maintain in power and follow and are therefore responsible for said actions of that leadership. Just as the Germans were responsible for Hitler.
How convenient for you.
So you think the women of Afghanistan 'maintain their leaders in power'?
Idiot.