Mom Urgently Seeks Help of US Citizens

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[~EagleNebula~]

Mom Urgently Seeks Help of U.S. Citizens

My husband took off with our kids on (11/08/01).

There was no warning, he acted fine that morning, telling me he would see me when I got home.

When I did get home, he and the children were gone.

I went to the court house the next day, filed for divorce, custody, and a restraining order.

I was granted temporary custody, and now the police are looking for him so they can get the kids back to me.

He can be abusive to the kids.

One is 6 years old and doesn't recognize him as an authority, when she does this he get very angry and hits her.

The other is 21 months old, and my husband likes to slap him on the back of his head when he does something he (my husband) doesn't like.

I am scared, it has already been several days, and I am worried that he may hurt them badly since I am not there to protect them.

He could be anywhere but it is possible that he went to Tucson Arizona to his ex brother-in-laws house. Other possibilities are Waco, Texas; Burlington, Colorado; Flagstaff, Arizona; Farmington, New Mexico; Roswell, New Mexico; or he may be here in the southwest corner of Colorado. I have given this information to the police and they say unless he does something illegal, they cannot stop him to get my children.

I feel helpless and need help. If you could tell your friends and family about this it would really help to get the word out so they can find my children.

Please, My husband is thin (135 pounds) and is 5 foot 11 inches tall. He wears cowboy boots and a cowboy hat with a flat brim. He drives an blue 1985 chevy 3/4 ton deisel with a white camper shell, no back window. Plate # 402DAG. 2 yellow strobe lights, and 2 CB whip antennas (CB handle "lil stinger"). A heavy metal grill guard and a welded on trailer hitch on the back.

My kids are both blonds with beautiful blue eyes. My son has very curly hair. He is chubby, and my daughter is very thin and petite. She has straight hair usually kept in a pony tail.

If anybody has new neighbors that fit this description, please call your local police, and tell them that you might have seen the missing kids from Cortez, CO. Or call Cortez, CO. Police Dept. (970) 565-8441.

I NEED HELP!!! Tracy Russell

If you have any information please e-mail me at any of these 3 e-mail addy's! Plus I have MSN and Yahoo Messenger Screen Names trussell81321!

Fone e-mail addy: trussell@fone.net

Yahoo e-mail addy: trussell81321@yahoo.com

Hotmail e-mail addy: trussell81321@hotmail.com

[Dr. Octagon]

Good call Fitz. Equal custody rights for good dads. Most dangerous situation in the world for kids? Single moms with new boyfriends.

[Movemout]

Good luck to you and Tracy. I have been married for 21 years and the Good Lord knows it is difficult on both sides of the fence. The haggling over details I see on this thread ignores the fact that there is a terrible conflict at the core. I was married once before for 8 years. It was a disaster. We had split custody of two children. The one that I didn't have custody for ended up with me anyway. I am male and love my children very much, even if they they think I'm a hardcore old bastard. I favor the notion that women raise kids better than men in general but I also favor the notion that women make as many mistakes in choosing partners as men and thus affect their kids adversely.

Like I said, good luck to you and Tracy. Try to do better next time for your sake, as well as the kids.

[Dr. Octagon]

And fathers can do anything mothers can do; bottle-feeding, of course.

[joathome]

HUH? Saying that mothers have a maternal instinct that fathers do not is sexist? Yes, I believe it is. I am not a NOW feminazi. I do believe in inherent differences between men and women, and that includes the fact that mothers are mothers and fathers are fathers. It's one of the most traditional statements any one could make, and I'm not ashamed of it. When you can get pregnant, give birth, and nurse, you should be on equal footing with a woman in custody disputes. Better yet, how about going back to the days when divorce wasn't so easy to get, and the party at fault had to pay. Men who were honorable would be much more likely to get custody of their kids, while traditional mothers wouldn't be blindsided in divorce courts.

The fact that NOW wants to have their cake and eat it, too, is the real problem. I'm not changing my views on parenting due to a bunch of feminazis who've managed to screw up our culture big time. My husband is the most wonderful father in the world. He is NOT a mother. Even if I could make five times the amount of money he makes, we both know that GOD intended for me to be in our home with the children, while he goes out to provide for his family.

[joathome]

Wow! Some common sense here. I see that you aren't willing to deny what your heart knows is true. Most kids belong with their moms, with ample time spent with dad. Unfortunately, some moms are totally screwy, and the kids are much better off with their dads. That's why we actively supported a male friend in his quest for custody.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

I think you should re-read my post to you - I said very plainly that Tracy is now in a position to take responsibility for keeping herself and her children safe. I did not condemn Tracy - but I did say that YOUR excuses will not help her now - she has to stay strong and take the position that she is responsible for her children's safety!

How are you helping Tracy by blaming the community or me? My post was meant to help. If Tracy gets advice that suggest to her that this is the fault of "society" then how is she ever going to get out of this situation?

You are not the only person in the world who has suffered abuse and your insistence that only those who have can help or understand is childish.

I honestly was trying to convey to you that the initial hugs for Tracy were great - she needed comfort - but now she needs a STRONG friend who will support her and constantly remind her that now it is up to her to keep those children safe. If all you want to do is blame others and not make her take that responsibility, then you will not be helping her. But, if that makes you feel good, then go ahead...

It's been great dealing with you, I hope Tracy's therapy helps her more than yours has helped you.

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

I'm sorry - that last line was inappropriate and uncalled for.

You stated that you have only recently gotten out of an abusive situation. What I was attempting to point out to you and Tracy, was that no one else got you out of your bad situation - YOU DID IT! You got out - whatever the final circumstance was that pushed you to that decision, it was still your own determination and strength that saved you and your children.

I am merely trying to get you to see that so you can help Tracy to see it too. No one else can do this for her - she has to be strong and realize that she can do this. Friends can help with emotional support, but as I'm sure you know, the strength still has to come from inside of you -

Perhaps God put you in Tracy's path so you could teach her to rely on herself and to do whatever is necessary to keep her children safe.

[~EagleNebula~]

And fathers can do anything mothers can do; bottle-feeding, of course.

I think it is funny you brought this up!!! LOL I was just thinking about this on the drive home this afternoon. Hmmmm! I understand where you are coming from....I would rather breastfeed, there is something to be said about the bonding it produces. ::grin:: Good luck, guys!! (Jesting in good natured fun!)

[~EagleNebula~]

Thank you for all your input. If I had posted all of my communications with Tracy, you would know that I am not just a hug for her. I have given her suggestions, and talked with her about areas to watch, as have others.

Your thoughts and cares are appreciated.

It's been great dealing with you, I hope Tracy's therapy helps her more than yours has helped you.I read this post and stopped to reply. I am glad I went back and read the next one. FORGIVEN!

I am sorry if I had my back up. It has been a long haul for me and my 3 girls. I had to pull through my battle with almost no support. My family believed 'his' lies, as did the community and church. I had one friend to help me. If it had not been for my faith in God, and God's hand being evident each day, I could not have done it. The support group and shelter were there when I needed it, but on the day to day basis....it was only my one friend and the Lord.

This is not the place to get into my story. Sufficeth to say, I will battle on the Domestic Violence and Abuse issues to educate people and to try to open their eyes. I am far from perfect, but I have been there....educating the public needs to be done so those who are in these situations get the support they need, rather than the judgements, harsh criticisms, and cold hearted unthinking quips.

This thread was not started for this purpose. It was only intended to request prayer support and ask people to keep their eyes open for the children. God has used it for His purposes.

[~EagleNebula~]

Tracy got to court today and it was postponed until the 19 due to some paperwork not being there. Thank you for your continued support!

[WhyisaTexasgirlinPA]

Thank you.

[~EagleNebula~]

YW, ;-)

[trussell]

By my request, a special advocate has been appointed to the case, to help the court decide the best interest of the children. The inquiry by the special advocate should begin in the week following Christmas, after she gives her report to the judge, there will be another hearing scheduled. I will continue to post updates on this as they happen.

[~EagleNebula~]

Thanks! Have BLESSED Christmas, with your mom and little ones!!!

[Danielle]

"a special advocate has been appointed to the case, to help the court decide the best interest of the children."

The fact that the judge allowed this "special advocate" tells me is that the accusations against the father were not backed up by evidence.

[eastforker]

Thanks for the Bump D,please keep me posted,I would love to be in that courtroom for that hearing.

[Danielle]

I would also love to be there to hear it. Sounds like there is much that we were not made aware of.

[WLR]

OK, People!!! Let’s do this thing!

Why?

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