Don't even go there, girlfriend. A few men get taken to the cleaners? What planet are you on? Do you have any idea what the divorce statistics are in this country? Why do you think more women file for divorce than men; because of the raw deal they're likely to get from the courts? Not hardly.
None of that excuses being a deadbeat parent in my book and I speak as someone who spent 6 years happily paying for a deadbeat dad's kid (my former stepson). There is no excuse for not taking care of your parental responsibilities - none. But there are definitely serious problems with this country's divorce courts and most of those problems have to do with extreme prejudices against men. That is just plain simple FACT.
And what is interesting about that is, most of the judges are men. A guy I work with was able to get custody partly because he got a woman lawyer which he said somehow "looks" better, apparently the judges tend to have too much sympathy if it looks like it's 2 men against a woman. Custody laws should be changed so that both have equal claims to custody to start with, if women weren't guaranteed that outcome, they'd be less likely to divorce for insignificant reasons and find themselves paying child support and trying to have visitation rights.
All the women I know who filed for divorce filed because of infidelity--committed by the husband. Yes, I know there are a variety of reasons for divorce, and female infidelity is one of them, but don't act like just because the woman filed it's her fault the marriage failed. No, no.
Times are changing and I'm glad about that actually. Whoever has custody of the children should receive child support from the other parent.