A Catholic critique of a current notion of courtship

Thanks for posting this intriguing article. I may be misreading what she is saying, but the suggestion to reserve "intimacy for only the most exceptional moments" seems a little peculiar. Supplied with this loophole, human nature , especially male human nature, is prone to quickly start considering an awful lot of moments to be highly exceptional. Decisions made under the influence of the incredibly powerful emotions aroused by "exceptional moments" are not necessarily good ones.

(No distinction is made here between critically different types of emotions, such as between arbitrary sensations and deep spiritual responses.)

The author doesn't provide much help in making these distinctions either. I agree the distinction is critical, but how does a young person make it?

I also wonder about her apparent approval of only slightly modified "dating." The modern system of dating seems to me to be inherently a form of playing with other people's emotions. You spend a lot of effort doing everything you can to get another person to fall in love with you, until YOU lose interest. Once you do, the other person is discarded like used tissue, while YOU move on.

Nobody ever seems to point out how many of the mass-murders, including the school shootings, are apparently precipitated by a "romantic" breakup. Many people are emotionally resilient, and "play the game" just fine. Others are emotionally fragile, and the damage that a "game-player" can do to such a person is truly evil.

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