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The United States Is Experiencing A Perfect Storm Of Non-Self-Perpetuation: Our culture is driving men away from women in ways that destroy men at the individual level and society as a whole.
American Thinker ^ | 07/31/2025 | Vince Coyner

Posted on 07/31/2025 9:38:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

Like most red-blooded American boys, from the beginning of middle school on, I was very interested in girls. Indeed, I spent pretty much the entirety of my teenage years trying to figure out how to get girls. I never did find a formula, but I was forever looking. For the most part, my days were filled with sports of every type, from scuba diving to motocross to baseball, football, golf, karate, the gym, etc. But the entire time, all of that, and school, was set against a mental backdrop of how to get girls, how to get a date…and, umm…more. That pretty much was it, and from what I could tell from my friends, that was pretty much normal. Some guys were more successful, some were less successful, but we were all basically in the same game.

But here’s the thing: For virtually all of us growing up (except those lucky few Casanovas), getting girls was always a challenge. I don’t mean a challenge that someone put you up to—although sometimes it was that—but rather that the entire process of getting girls was challenging. You might admire a girl from afar and practice what you’d say when you approached her, but then you’d chicken out. Or when you bumped into her around a corner, you somehow forgot how to speak English correctly. There’d be the nervousness, the dozen times you’d pick up the phone to call but hang up before you dial that last digit, and more.

Being a young man was often hard when it came to girls, but that was life. (It no doubt was hard to be a girl too, likely for different reasons, but I can’t really speak about that…).

You’ll notice I said was and not is. It might still be, but it’s different.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events; Philosophy
KEYWORDS: birthrate; demographics; men; women
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1 posted on 07/31/2025 9:38:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

I worked with a gay guy and I was fired for hating gays. I worked with a girl and I was fired for hating girls. I worked with an Indian and I was fired for hating Indians. I worked with a Pakistani girl and I was fired for hating Pakistani girls. Now I hate Gays, girls, Indians and Pakistani woman. Surprise!


4 posted on 07/31/2025 9:40:40 AM PDT by jroehl (And how we burned in the camps later - Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn - The Gulag Archipelago)
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To: SeekAndFind

It’s replacement theology and white genocide. People need to just say it openly at this point. The Sydney jeans hysteria is all the proof you need. A systematic, decades-long, KGB-initiated compromat to destroy the West that got even out of their control.


5 posted on 07/31/2025 9:42:56 AM PDT by montag813
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To: jroehl

It appears you need to stop working. Working is stupid anyway. Also, people suck so there’s that.


6 posted on 07/31/2025 9:44:07 AM PDT by shelterguy
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To: SeekAndFind
The United States is experiencing something of a perfect storm of non-self-perpetuation.

Pursuant to a program designed and implemented by one guy between 1930 and 1956.

And you've never heard of him.

7 posted on 07/31/2025 9:50:03 AM PDT by Carry_Okie (The tree of liberty needs a rope.)
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To: SeekAndFind

One of the most powerful disincentives for marriage and children is family court, which absolutely ruins many men for life, large numbers of them committing suicide or ending up homeless.


8 posted on 07/31/2025 9:50:35 AM PDT by Mount Athos
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To: SeekAndFind

Addressing the author’s point of his quest for “getting girls” when he was a young man, I personally can attest I found the magic formula as a teenager...

I formed a rock and roll band in high school and we always had adoring young ladies watching us perform.

It may not work now but it sure worked back then.

It’s funny to read about now-legendary and famous rock bands of the 1960’s talking about how “meeting pretty girls” was their primary motivation for forming a band and worked well for them back in the day. Many of them ended up earning a fortune, as well.


9 posted on 07/31/2025 9:55:04 AM PDT by Gnome1949
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To: SeekAndFind

When a perfect AI 3D anatomically correct female can be purchased and programmed by men, it will be the final nail in the coffin for women. It is very close - see the movie Deus Machina


10 posted on 07/31/2025 9:55:55 AM PDT by atc23
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To: SeekAndFind

I have a friend who is wondering if it’s ok to have an AI girlfriend if you’re married. She’ll never show up on a kiss cam.


11 posted on 07/31/2025 9:56:06 AM PDT by JusPasenThru (Boobs are fascicoded.)
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To: Mount Athos

disincentives are nearly too numerous to mention at this point


12 posted on 07/31/2025 9:57:10 AM PDT by wafflehouse ("there was a third possibility that we hadn't even counted upon" -Alice's Restaurant Massacree)
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To: SeekAndFind

“The United States Is Experiencing A Perfect Storm Of Non-Self-Perpetuation: Our culture is driving men away from women in ways that destroy men at the individual level and society as a whole.”

Hell, we even have FEMINISTS on this site, who snap at me when I bring up the inconvenient fact that when half of the population has tempting alternatives to having kids, birth rates go down, and go down BIG TIME.

It’s hopeless for us.


13 posted on 07/31/2025 9:59:32 AM PDT by BobL (Trusting one's doctor is the #1 health mistake one can make.)
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To: SeekAndFind

I think it’s the women (womyn) driving the men away, not the other way around.


14 posted on 07/31/2025 9:59:41 AM PDT by Sicon ("All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others." - G. Orwell)
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To: SeekAndFind

I suspect that the declining fertility problem has less to do with young men seeking technological “AI substitutes” for young women and more to do with fewer young women aspiring to be moms. This is a cultural problem. I don’t want to say that it exactly started with “Sex and the City” a quarter century ago; that was likely a symptom rather than the cause. But we have a culture that has only grown with the rise of social media “influencers” that encourages young women to aspire to a “cool” urban lifestyle that values clothes, restaurants, alcohol, vacations etc. over making babies.


15 posted on 07/31/2025 10:00:40 AM PDT by irishjuggler
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To: BobL

It is always amusing when women tell men what they “should” do.

The best response is to point and laugh.


16 posted on 07/31/2025 10:02:12 AM PDT by cgbg (It was not us. It was them--all along.)
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To: SeekAndFind
More people refuse to self-discipline.

Parents "can reason with the child."

"Teachers" teaching depravity and perversion.

The "inevitable" of socialism, is that socialists destroy things and each other.

The Christian church and religion is supposed to help sustain, instead of coerce, a person's faith in God.

17 posted on 07/31/2025 10:02:34 AM PDT by linMcHlp
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To: SeekAndFind

The problem is circular and impacting both sexes. There ARE normal men and women but BOTH have been negatively impacted by the modern culture. I know. I have one of each. It has taken my daughter a decade plus to find a guy. They’ve had bad experiences. The men have been feminized, demonized and marginalized. They have been blamed, used and isolated. My daughter is normal, feminine, hard working. She is sweet, A great cook, loves animals, kids, and old people. She is an RN. But boy howdy did she find some losers out there.... An abuser (He hit her), A guy a decade older and a bit weird, a mental case.... She was very accepting. Too accepting. Happily she has finally found a good man. They married last Friday. She is so happy.

My son went into the Navy for six years to get away from our modern culture. Put down by women and isolated, bullied (when a child). It was so hard and I did fight the system. In the Navy he watched as many of his friends got played, used and some suicided. It’s bad out there. He is out now and getting his degree, but still isolated. He flew out for his sister’s wedding. I want him to see that it is still possible. His girlfriend (met online and met once in person) is living in Europe and much older (safer?).

It is very hard for the normals to meet and even when they do they are battered, beaten down, untrusting, scared and angry. Many don’t know how to behave or even what to want thanks to our messed up culture.

Keep our youth in your prayers. They are so broken. And they’re our future. 🙏🙏🙏


18 posted on 07/31/2025 10:03:55 AM PDT by Whatever Works
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To: Mount Athos

“...or ending up homeless”.
I have a co-worker who fits that description.
In his late 40’s, divorced from the custodial Mom, to whom he is overdue with child support payments. He loves his two kids, but, he suspects she (the Mom) is spending much of the child support on herself, though he cannot prove it.

Their relationship is bad right now, because she always, always has her hand out for more money.
He has his own personality issues and for now, he is living out of his car, but still (mostly) employed.

I would consider letting him sleep in an extra room in my apartment, but my friend is heavily into smoking pot right now. It calms him down. I understand that, but I don’t want that odor on my clothes and furniture. Besides, I think I would just be enabling his bad habits for now. He’s not good at paying on his other debts either.


19 posted on 07/31/2025 10:04:07 AM PDT by lee martell
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To: Gnome1949

RE: I formed a rock and roll band in high school and we always had adoring young ladies watching us perform.

Yes, but you have to be good, musically, or you’d have eggs on your faces… just saying…


20 posted on 07/31/2025 10:06:21 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
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