It is a big relief for me. He makes his decisions and I made it clear that this was Dad’s decision and I had no need to be part of discussions. A friend and I worked on stuff that Dad needs done. I began cleaning mold out of his car and the friend was repairing Dad’s under-the-counter lights. But, wonder of wonders, Dad agreed to having Synergy provide him with 4 hours of care per day. I’ll contact the VA on Dad’s behalf and they will pay for 28 hours of care per week, which, as you know, is 4 hours per day. The caregiver will visit him on Monday and then begin providing care on Jan. 6. This is a big relief to me in several ways. First, Dad made the decision. Also, he wasn’t forced into it and all parts of it were explained to him. He signed the papers with no requirement for my signature. The friend witnessed this in that he was in the room. Dad gets to stay in his house — which is important to him. There may be a time when Dad needs more care. But for now, unless Dad and the caregiver completely clash, will enable us to continue working ourselves. As to the potential for a clash, I will be here during the initial adjustment period to hopefully mitigate any adverse situation.
As for me, I will be here a little longer. I went to the doc for a follow-up appointment. My hope was to have the stitches in my nose out, athough I wasn’t expecting it. My cold agglutinin disease causes my healing times to draw out to two and three times the length of “normal” people. There is progress being made, no infection, just slow progress.
I did discuss the vaseline usage with them. The nurses were quite clear. USE THE VASELINE. They also didn’t care about the doxy as there has been no infection.
That sounds ideal. Your dad is a pretty smart man to realize that if he gets some help, that frees him up to do fun stuff.
Oh, that is so encouraging about your dad and his willingness to understand that Help is a good thing
to stay in one’s own home is very important to most people
so glad you’re there to oversee and coordinate all that with your dad.