In Texas the assets are slit 50/50 if you are still married. They don’t care that he bailed 43 years ago. He signed over the house, but we lived in another state back then so when I sold the house, I got all the proceeds. If I knew then what I know now I would never have moved to Texas. He also gets a hefty percentage of my SS. When I die, he gets my social security payment in full.
But what does that have to do with your will?
I hope you find someone to help you with this. Sounds like you are trying to divorce now, and that is where the 50-50 comes in. Please try to find a women’s advocacy group or a public defender group of some kind who offers pro bono help to distressed women and who can help you make the legal case that he is undeserving.
A close relative passed on a while ago, and a situation similar to what you are describing happened.