Just read the posts on this thread about responsible veterans who knew what the military required of them and they behaved. You can have your randy behavior out of uniform and off-base. There’s no place for it on active duty, in uniform or on base.
You are mixing up civilian behavior and expectations with military behavior and expectations. They are different. People going into the military understand that and most behave as expected (as the vets on this thread have said).
1AD in 2003 - 2004 lost more people from “pregnancy” than from enemy activity.
~ 1/3 of all females either became non-deployable shortly before, or became non-deployable when down range.
It became so bad and affected the units ability to conduct its mission, that the division surgeon had to brief the CG on this in his updates down range.
I have a son in the USN right now. I can talk candid with him, and what happens on his ship is more wild than the plot of a bad porn movie. I do not blame the guys or the gals because as far as I’m concerned, the policies we have in place today basically set the stage for this to happen.
You can talk about “professionalism” and “morals” or “standards” until you’re blue in the face. Sex is one of the most powerful basic human drives/urges. When you put boys and girls together for an extended time and they are of sexual age, it’s going to happen.
I’m glad you have your view and personal standards, I have mine too, but you cannot make policy/regulations based merely on how “we” see the world ourselves. There are many different people and in fact the same people go through different phases in their lives. The military is NOT made up by clones of ourselves.
When you create policy and regulations, these should set the stage for success, not failure (even if well intended).
We are failing these kids and weakening the force. This is form (inclusion / equality) vs. function.