Posted on 12/13/2023 6:14:15 AM PST by Rummyfan
A woman said she felt “betrayed by feminism” after deciding she wanted to settle down, have a family and a husband as she approached 39th birthday. At one point during the interview with Fox News Digital, she broke down crying describing how she feared she would end up alone and childless.
Melissa Persling recently wrote an essay for Business Insider titled, “I’m 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child. I’m terrified I’ve missed my opportunity.” She said after it went viral in November, hate began to pour in from men telling her that she’s lived a selfish life. Persling has a much different account of her story.
When Persling was 22, she married a traditional man and moved to a rural community in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, where she grew up.
“He wanted a simple life with children and home-cooked meals,” she said. However, Persling – despite coming from a religious Christian background – made it clear to her husband-to-be that she did not want children.
“At that time I felt very strongly I did not want children, that I wasn’t going to be like the traditional housewife. I knew I did want to pursue a career,” she told Fox News Digital in an interview. “And I felt very strongly that that would never change. And I guess I was wrong.”
Persling said both her and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable. Persling said she became resentful when he would ask for dinner or for his laundry to be done.
“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.
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Really?! You think that?!
Side question: How many more years before you're eligible for parole?
Regards,
...but you can image dispelling what others post, insisting "anyone who is without a man at this age is either widowed, or has kids and her husband divorced her looking for a younger piece of meat." despite hundreds of thousands of women posting regularly that they themselves are to blame for being single and bitter.
Perpetuating lies and blaming men for what women are correctly identifying as the problem is something the Left does, whether they lie intentionally or choose to repeat lies out of ignorance.
There are some "screw-ups" from which it is virtually impossible to recover.
For a woman, squandering her peak sexual appeal and fertility decades has unavoidable consequences.
Regards,
All three grandchildren conceived by natural means? In intact traditional marriages? And what does "$$$$" have to do with it?
So, the infant/toddler stage - even with help from parents and friends - is proving to be pretty wearing.
Had my final child at 48. Piece of cake!
Nor did my wife (foreign-born, 16 years my junior) seem to mind.
Regards,
“previous children”
This is the big deal killer imho—for many reasons.
The vast majority of woman will have their child (children) as their highest priority—which means the (new) man is going to be the one making the big compromises and sacrifices.
I would call it a two or three point penalty in SMV (sexual market value) for young women.
That means a 9 or 10 on the beauty scale can get away with it—but below that the woman is going to have to “settle” on what she can get.
Let's enumerate those reasons, shall we?
1. Even only a single previous child represents a tremendous financial investment / drain of financial resources for the (future / potential) step-father. (Admittedly, child support payments may defray some of those costs - but then again, they might not.) Then consider the possibility that the woman is bringing more than just one minor child into the relationship.
2. Difficulty in scheduling "alone time" during the dating phase and, later, for the newlyweds. After the first three or four "candlelight dinners" with just the two of you, the man may soon find himself unable to extricate himself from "pizza nights" with the "whole gang." In short: No "Honeymoon Phase."
3. Every child the woman brings into the relationship is one child less that the (future / potential) step-father can himself father. If he had previously calculated that he could financially and emotionally support having two children, but his fiancée is bringing a previous child into the relationship, then that effectively reduces his potential progeny to ONE child (that he fathers himself).
4. Till now, we haven't even considered the very real possibility that the future step-father will now have to be dealing with the unstable, uncooperative, and maybe even dangerous biological father of the step-child(ren). This can be extremely stressful.
5. Underaged female step-children - maybe in slightly cramped quarters? Step-daughters who may resent the man's presence, and seek to sabotage the relationship - perhaps with certain allegations?
6. As opposed to earlier eras, step-fathers no longer enjoy any special respect or deference in our modern society. They will be expected to pick up the child(ren) from after-school soccer practice, to go down to the police station at 1 a.m. and bail out the drunk step-son, etc. - but are generally not permitted to exercise any discipline or exert authority.
7. Hazard of establishing good relations with the girlfriend's child(ren) - which are then irrevocably severed if the relationship ends. Same applies to marriage and divorce. The step-father has no legal right to see his step-children, which can be emotionally devastating.
I'm sure that I'm forgetting some here. Feel free to add.
Regards,
In my very young days I dated a woman with two children once—hit your numbers 2,4 and 7—and I was gone in a hurry.
The kids were great—I could see I was getting way too attached to them—not so much to the girlfriend.
She still had a soft spot for the ex...
Bye!
(I ghosted her—totally—no arguments—no warning—no good-bye, just gone. Imho it was the right move for everyone.)
I had a boyfriend in late 1970s who I think one of the reasons he dumped me was my 9 yr old son (but seems he was also enamored with a married woman in his dept, whom he did later marry.) My son was a great kid, and turned into a great adult. Anyhoo...this bf ended up, I believe, with a problem son, who may not even be alive today. Cannot really make predictions is, I guess, the moral of the story. But, these days you probably would be more right than wrong.
I commented on that post because I don’t actually know any single women who are in their 60’s and 70’s that are like the description the poster gave. That’s my personal experience.
You and several others insist there are thousands of women like this, and I did say, I’m sure they’re out there. The fact is…I don’t know any of them. Maybe I live in a very small world, but I am not lying about my experience.
Isn’t my viewpoint as valid as someone else’s, or should I just nod in agreement with those who see things differently?
You sound like a perfectly nice guy. I hope that your forever bride appreciates you!!!
It was her first
My Mom panicked when my older sister got engaged, and she knew my older brother was not far behind. She did NOT want an empty nest. I was born when Mom was 38. She didn’t want to raise an only child, either, so my younger sister was born when Mom was 40.
The most Feminist women in American History were those TOUGH, STRONG, ADAPTABLE, RESILIANT women who crossed the prairies, rivers, mountains and deserts with their husbands and 4 or 5 children looking for a new life in the American West.
They were capable of burying their Husbands and Children in a place that they knew they would never return to when disease, accident, or hostile action took their loved ones from them.
They not only turned the soil to bury their husbands and children when necessary, but also turned the soil to plant the crops to feed their remaining family and the families of others.
When a modern feminist woman can show me that same strength of character and will, perhaps I will consider giving them some respect!
I could go on for pages with this screed but I have other things that need doing outside.
I have my chores outside—my wife of 47 years has hers inside; we both know our jobs and we compliment each other when doing them.
You said: “Fur babies” do too, but get charged more.
That’s a big fat FALSE. Most people pay insurance companies hundreds of dollars every month for “just in case” they need to go to the Doctor. Add it up => say $300 a month for a healthy young person, or $3,600 pure profit IF nothing happens. Insurance companies think it’s a pretty good gamble for them because they make lots of profit -— or at least until Covid and vaxx issues came along.
Unless you have pet insurance, you pay -0- toward your pet’s necessary health care -— which usually bills out as little as 1/10th of what the same care would be for you without the benefit of insurance. And yet pet owners expect Veterinary Clinics to be there, all staffed and ready to go, with all the necessary supplies, and all available diagnostic and treatment equipment, on the spur of the moment, AND while only having to pay what they would for their personal health insurance deductible.
Sorry, but . . . In human medicine, insurance pays the part THEY want to for your Doctor bills after your deductible and until you reach your insurance limit. The rest is YOUR problem. In Veterinary medicine we cost you -0- until you need us, and I can assure you WE make far less than your MD or your insurance company.
Now IF you wanted to buy pet insurance, which some of my clients have for their furbabies, then they come in for care and pay little or nothing because their monthly premium covers the bill. Of course, IF the pet stays well, they too are paying monthly essentially for nothing.
It’s all a gamble -— choose wisely.
The woman I married grew up on a farm and she worked—including splitting wood, planting crops, milking cows etc—as a little girl. The family had no boys, all girls—so all the girls were put to work early on whatever needed to be done.
That is how it used to be....
But you wrote that it was your "youngest." Hence my confusion.
Regards,
Very strange; I knew how to do all those things by the time I was 16 years old .
And I am a happily MARRIED MAN OF 47 YEARS at 74 years old.
All those skills also helped out when I was in the Corps from 1968 to 1973.
SEMPER FI
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
My wife and I are looking forward to our 50th, still a few years away but were working towards it.
😆😂🤣😜
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