Sir, it is near impossible to get a well paying job at age 45 with no degree and no career behind me. Each marriage must be looked at as unique.
To reinvent myself at that age, go back to college, and start a career is very difficult although it can usually be done. But then you are STARTING a late life career - lower pay and not very hireable.
There is a type of man who abandons an older wife for a new model after she has given him all the best years of her life faithfully. We have all seen it.
I agree thats morally wrong, but half the assets and a large 10 year payment, plus you get half his SS, is still a pretty good deal, especially compared to what the average wife would get in a similar situation would be minimal and she did the same support (and increasingly, the male doing the support of higher powered exec female)
And yet I know 3 women, my mother included, that got dumped after 20 years+, and now have high paying jobs. My mother makes more then I do, and her only job was scooping ice cream before they got married. works from home as an admin making 30-35 an hour.
stop moaning about how unfair life is and do something about it. It’s quite possible, contrary to what your saying.
and stop being sexist about how its okay to rape someone decades of their earned money, because your too damn lazy to live in the present and get a damn job. splitting the earned assets during marriage is already enough.
My mom was widowed in her 50s… she was married at 18, stayed home to raise 4 kids, had no degree, health issues, and was nearly bankrupted with my dad’s medical bills. But she could type… and she got a job as a church secretary. Later got an administrative job in the school system which provided her much needed health insurance. She had to work her way up there too. It was really hard for her but she did it on her own and did not accept help from any of her children.
She supported herself until she passed 20 years later (from ALS)
“There is a type of man who abandons an older wife for a new model after she has given him all the best years of her life faithfully. We have all seen it.“
Although that does happen, it is the exception rather than the rule. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces in the country today, and have for at least the past 50 years. And women have caught up to men on the infidelity scale.
Alimony should never be a lifetime. I recognize a man can be a dick and leave his wife, but shouldn’t getting the house, half his stuff, custody of the kids, and child support be enough.