Being "charming" is something that I don't trust at all, but the decency and consideration of others is the foundation of the truly American, truly Christian way of life.
So, go soak your head, Mr. Howard Sachs.
Did Jesus hesitate at all in telling sinful people that they sinned, and would go to hell unless they repented?
Would you think that taking a physical WHIP and BEATING people with it, because they were defiling something HOLY, would be regarded by your friends as a "decent and considerate" act?
Often, the best way to be considerate towards people, is to tell them the real long term consequences of their behavior.