I attended HS in Vancouver canada. A LOT of my classmates were Punjabi meaning they normally dont wear the head rag.
SOME of them were already “scheduled” for marriage during my time. Some of them were not happy, some were (depends on how pretty they were).
I’ve known several young Indian couples who had arranged marriages. They came from upper class, loving families and told me that if either objected to the ‘arrangement’, they could refuse and wouldn’t be forced to marry. (They aren’t exactly married-off sight unseen anymore; they have a chance to get to know one another somewhat.)
But they had faith in their parents’ judgment (”I know my mother will find someone good for me”). They didn’t seem to have any worries leading up to marriage; and seemed very happy after.
I’m sure it’s not the same for everyone.
and what about the women?...were they happy?..